Hi, have been reading this forum for a while now, but this is my first posting.
My Mum and Dad are both 86 and have been married for 63 years. In 2002 my Mum started showing signs of memory problems i.e. asking the same question over and over again. Her memory has declined quickly over the years but now things have really deteriorated.
She has absolutley no short term memory, none at all, in fact even her memories from her youth are all distorted. She tells stories of things we know have never happened and seems to have re-invented her past. Recently she has run out of the house screaming that there was an imposter inside trying to steal her things (it was my Dad), accused him of having an affair and locked all the doors when he was in the garden.
These are only the things we know about. You see my Mum has never seen a Doctor about this, not ever. My Dad is in complete denial and says she will "flip" if he calls the Doctor out. His reasoning is that she is not neglected, he does all the cooking, the washing and housework, but he just can't see which way this is going. Mum is incapable of the simplest tasks, I'm scared that she will cause an accident or hurt herself or my dad in some way. I'm scared that she will have one of her "episodes" when I'm there with my children and most of all I'm just scared. Her Mum had Alzheimers (diagnosed and in a care home) so I know how it ends and how can my Dad do that at home?
I'm sorry, this post sounds self pitying and I don't mean to be. What I wanted to ask is do we intervene? My Dad is a good, proud man who has provided for his family all his life, but has always had a tendency to bury his head in the sand and refuses to listen to us that he needs help. Sorry, this is a ramble but I'm just hoping there's someone who can give me some advice.
Thanks
Logan
My Mum and Dad are both 86 and have been married for 63 years. In 2002 my Mum started showing signs of memory problems i.e. asking the same question over and over again. Her memory has declined quickly over the years but now things have really deteriorated.
She has absolutley no short term memory, none at all, in fact even her memories from her youth are all distorted. She tells stories of things we know have never happened and seems to have re-invented her past. Recently she has run out of the house screaming that there was an imposter inside trying to steal her things (it was my Dad), accused him of having an affair and locked all the doors when he was in the garden.
These are only the things we know about. You see my Mum has never seen a Doctor about this, not ever. My Dad is in complete denial and says she will "flip" if he calls the Doctor out. His reasoning is that she is not neglected, he does all the cooking, the washing and housework, but he just can't see which way this is going. Mum is incapable of the simplest tasks, I'm scared that she will cause an accident or hurt herself or my dad in some way. I'm scared that she will have one of her "episodes" when I'm there with my children and most of all I'm just scared. Her Mum had Alzheimers (diagnosed and in a care home) so I know how it ends and how can my Dad do that at home?
I'm sorry, this post sounds self pitying and I don't mean to be. What I wanted to ask is do we intervene? My Dad is a good, proud man who has provided for his family all his life, but has always had a tendency to bury his head in the sand and refuses to listen to us that he needs help. Sorry, this is a ramble but I'm just hoping there's someone who can give me some advice.
Thanks
Logan