Hi
I can see everyone seems to be having it really bad at the moment, I just wanted to ask for anyone elses experiences with how this effects your children?
I visited my mum on saturday and sepnt sunday with my own children, we had decided as my mother wouldn't know sat wasn't mothers day and as she has told everyone she hassn't seen me for years - that it wasn't worth ruining everyone elses day.
And there in lies the problem "ruin everyone elses day" this is now having a serious effect on my family life, we are already under more than enough pressure and financially witht he ever increasing cost of petrol and time being taken out of looking after my still quite young children - well at what point do you stop and think I can't do any more?
I can't take mum in she is unpredicatable and agressive, and I can't keep up what I have been doing without it having a massive effect on my children. Noone in my family would ever voice this to me - but my inner voice is saying who do you put first.
Has anyone else faced the guilt that is stepping back and sorting out your own children and family first tot he cost of your parent - grandparent? I can't afford to keep doing what I am doing on so many levels, my children need me and they cant keep being bundled in cars for four hours every round trip. It is a complete nightmare =o(
I can see everyone seems to be having it really bad at the moment, I just wanted to ask for anyone elses experiences with how this effects your children?
I visited my mum on saturday and sepnt sunday with my own children, we had decided as my mother wouldn't know sat wasn't mothers day and as she has told everyone she hassn't seen me for years - that it wasn't worth ruining everyone elses day.
And there in lies the problem "ruin everyone elses day" this is now having a serious effect on my family life, we are already under more than enough pressure and financially witht he ever increasing cost of petrol and time being taken out of looking after my still quite young children - well at what point do you stop and think I can't do any more?
I can't take mum in she is unpredicatable and agressive, and I can't keep up what I have been doing without it having a massive effect on my children. Noone in my family would ever voice this to me - but my inner voice is saying who do you put first.
Has anyone else faced the guilt that is stepping back and sorting out your own children and family first tot he cost of your parent - grandparent? I can't afford to keep doing what I am doing on so many levels, my children need me and they cant keep being bundled in cars for four hours every round trip. It is a complete nightmare =o(