My mother has been cared for at home for one and a half years now. We have agency carers coming in to feed Mum. When she came out of hospital her swallowing was not great and we took great care in how she was fed with regular review by community speech therapists. We have given the types of food that can be easily thickened or blended and stuck to food that Mum likes or fortified drinks recommended by the GP.
She coughed but we slowed down and encouraged her to swallow and so on following advice from ST. It was a battle trying to get carers to understand that it was a matter of quality not quantity as Mum's fatigue has increased.
Now she is gagging sometimes and retching and we stop completely.
One care giver was so desperate to feed her quickly she used an oral syringe without my knowledge. I reported her and she will not be back. The community team mentioned suctioning has anyone had this treatment or seen how it works ? It would mean mum going to hospital which I am not keen on as her health has always taken a dive when that happens.
PEG feeding has been talked about but I know there is an ethical issue here. My dilemma is one I am sure that other carers have had. Mum has windows of lucidity and responsiveness - she is often sleepy and vague but she is still there and when she looks at you with those big blue eyes I can't explain but its her. She has a way of saying no to food even though her speech has gone she kind of speaks with her eyes but is most responsive to people who really speak to her and not at her. And then of course I just don't want to lose her - I can't bear it. I don't know what to do. No one in the family comes any more. I think it scares them. I have no one to talk to about it really. I have my fiancé but he just lost his Mum to cancer and this must be a lot for him to cope with.
Does anyone have any information on this ? Any views ?
She coughed but we slowed down and encouraged her to swallow and so on following advice from ST. It was a battle trying to get carers to understand that it was a matter of quality not quantity as Mum's fatigue has increased.
Now she is gagging sometimes and retching and we stop completely.
One care giver was so desperate to feed her quickly she used an oral syringe without my knowledge. I reported her and she will not be back. The community team mentioned suctioning has anyone had this treatment or seen how it works ? It would mean mum going to hospital which I am not keen on as her health has always taken a dive when that happens.
PEG feeding has been talked about but I know there is an ethical issue here. My dilemma is one I am sure that other carers have had. Mum has windows of lucidity and responsiveness - she is often sleepy and vague but she is still there and when she looks at you with those big blue eyes I can't explain but its her. She has a way of saying no to food even though her speech has gone she kind of speaks with her eyes but is most responsive to people who really speak to her and not at her. And then of course I just don't want to lose her - I can't bear it. I don't know what to do. No one in the family comes any more. I think it scares them. I have no one to talk to about it really. I have my fiancé but he just lost his Mum to cancer and this must be a lot for him to cope with.
Does anyone have any information on this ? Any views ?
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