getting thru and holding on
These are the things that helped me. You MUST take care of yourself, nutrition, health and exercise, it you are to cope you need to be well. I fell into a huge hole put on weight stopped exercising etc - I wallowed in my own self pity because it was so hard to witness. Take time out to do something for yourself everyday - a walk, read whatever interests you do it, you must have a 'happy' place to go - even if its only for a few minutes.
I try to help the care home with my dad and mum whenever possilbe, I go for meal times and take dad a treat, I feed him and mum, sit and watch tv, read, whatever really, and at times I have taken great comfort from the fact that I am 'repaying' them just a little for all the love we shared for so many years. I try and take 'joy' from tending their needs. But then I go home and go for a swim or walk my dog and reming myself this is only a fraction of their lives. It is not who they really are.
This is the hardest thing I have ever gone thru, and still go thru, take care of you, cry when you must, rage even, but focus on just being their and those days that it is just unbearable do something else that helps you then come back. You can get thru its just finding the methods that suit you.
Maryanne
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These are the things that helped me. You MUST take care of yourself, nutrition, health and exercise, it you are to cope you need to be well. I fell into a huge hole put on weight stopped exercising etc - I wallowed in my own self pity because it was so hard to witness. Take time out to do something for yourself everyday - a walk, read whatever interests you do it, you must have a 'happy' place to go - even if its only for a few minutes.
I try to help the care home with my dad and mum whenever possilbe, I go for meal times and take dad a treat, I feed him and mum, sit and watch tv, read, whatever really, and at times I have taken great comfort from the fact that I am 'repaying' them just a little for all the love we shared for so many years. I try and take 'joy' from tending their needs. But then I go home and go for a swim or walk my dog and reming myself this is only a fraction of their lives. It is not who they really are.
This is the hardest thing I have ever gone thru, and still go thru, take care of you, cry when you must, rage even, but focus on just being their and those days that it is just unbearable do something else that helps you then come back. You can get thru its just finding the methods that suit you.
Maryanne
xx