I'm a carer for my mum who has alzheimers. We have a good relationship apart from when she needs to have a shower which she never does of her own volition. She lives on her own and I'm only 3 doors away and every time I broach the subject she gets really angry and accuses me of not believing her when she says shes done it heself.She has'nt got the insight and would have a prroblem being independent and its got to the stage where I dread going to help her as she starts shouting and becomes agressive. Ive tries everything but she even gets physical sometimes,The memory nurse arranged for a team to assess her needs so that she could get used to someone else helping as it stresses me and her out so much but when I went last night and tonight the carer who was supposed to let me know when she was visiting, had been and gone and my mum was still sat there all dirty.I got really frustrated and told her she needed to have one as her hair was really greasy and she started shouting in front of my son.I went mad and said I was going before I lost it completely and I stormed out and have been crying since as I hate to treat her like a child and I know its not her fault but I hate what its doing to her.Has anyone any advice on how to handle it as i;ve tried everything,thanks