My neighbour is 88 and her husband is 86, they have been married for 5 years. He has been diagnosed with Alzheimers for the last 2 years or so. I am aware of the illness as my Grandma had it, she died 20 years ago. She was forgetful and unable to look after herself although she knew us all till the end.
Anyway, my problem is this.......
I live in a semi-detached and practically every night I am woken by the most terrible shouting. My neighbour, Evie, tells me her husband demands sex from her and when she refuses he calls her all the names under the sun and tells her she is useless and she must leave the house. I can hear this although not every word clearly. It is obvious the most dreadful row is happening. That is bad enough but she has told me that he has pushed her and just last week when he told her to go, she went to another bedroom to sleep and he followed her, pulled back the bedsheets and then slapped her face and told her he was going to kill her. She was terrified. Bearing in mind she is frail and less than 5 feet tall, he is probably 5' 10.She has told his family but they don't seem to be taking it seriously. She is his primary carer. I have spoken with his son but he doesn't seem to understand what it's like hearing this through a bedroom wall in the middle of the night. It's not the noise, it upsets me that she may be being hurt or have fallen or worse. Do I speak with her doctor, do I call the police , I'm in that terrible dilemma of possibly being seen as interfering by his family or full of unforgivable guilt if she was hurt and I hadn't done anything.
Any advice would be appreciated......
PS I have read your other 'conversations' and my love and best wishes to you all , what a lovely atmosphere this site has especially for those who possibly feel no one else will understand
Anyway, my problem is this.......
I live in a semi-detached and practically every night I am woken by the most terrible shouting. My neighbour, Evie, tells me her husband demands sex from her and when she refuses he calls her all the names under the sun and tells her she is useless and she must leave the house. I can hear this although not every word clearly. It is obvious the most dreadful row is happening. That is bad enough but she has told me that he has pushed her and just last week when he told her to go, she went to another bedroom to sleep and he followed her, pulled back the bedsheets and then slapped her face and told her he was going to kill her. She was terrified. Bearing in mind she is frail and less than 5 feet tall, he is probably 5' 10.She has told his family but they don't seem to be taking it seriously. She is his primary carer. I have spoken with his son but he doesn't seem to understand what it's like hearing this through a bedroom wall in the middle of the night. It's not the noise, it upsets me that she may be being hurt or have fallen or worse. Do I speak with her doctor, do I call the police , I'm in that terrible dilemma of possibly being seen as interfering by his family or full of unforgivable guilt if she was hurt and I hadn't done anything.
Any advice would be appreciated......
PS I have read your other 'conversations' and my love and best wishes to you all , what a lovely atmosphere this site has especially for those who possibly feel no one else will understand