I dipped my toe into your forum yesterday and couldn't write everything that had been happening to my mum as I was too emotional. My mum is 87 and at the moment is being very hurtful. She is scared and upset and wants to die. She is telling anyone and everyone not to talk to meand that I am the worst daughter etc etc. She doesn't want to see me anymore and says that I should be put in prison for what I have done to her. She thinks that I steal her milk, paracetamol, duck in orange sauce and whatever else she can pin on me. I have experienced the normal confusing conversations and listening to the same complaints and fears repeatedly and have learnt to deal with the more disturbing behaviour. Over the past couple of weeks or so she has been asking my sister to travel up so she could divulge the things that I have been doing. My sister complied on a number of occasions but now understands that mum is confused and is delusional. She now doesn't come when mum calls and has learnt the hard way.I have cared for my mum for physical ailments for over 10 years and now the mixed up cognitive stuff is taking it's toll. My mum has locked me out of her heart and even looking at me is too much for her. It feels like I have lost her already. Up until recently I was told by my siblings...just don't go then, or by my brother who flew off to Florida last week, all you and mum needs is to see more faces more often so I will try and come more often. He has visited three times in 12 months. This outpouring is only just touching on what the reality is. I have so much whirling round in my head I feel like it's me causing the problem. The more I write the more whirls round and it's all coming out a bit disjointed. I feel I have to keep saying sorry. I have been reading different threads on this site and consider that the stage I am at is really not so bad compared with what others are going through. So thankyou for letting me rant. I hope this makes sense. As I was writing the warden phoned, mum has hidden her antibiotics. The district nurse has been and has had to go without giving her meds and
can I go round and help sort it out.
can I go round and help sort it out.