Hello
I am new to the site and not sure why I have registered, maybe I am just wanting to speak to people who understand the huge amount of stress, strain, suffering and immense upset Dementia causes.
I will try to keep my story short as I could be here all night with tales of what we have all been through as a family over the last 6 months. My Mum and Dad have been married almost 50 years and never spent a day apart. My mum had a triple heart bypass in August last year and ended up being extremely poorly and in hospital over 3 months. During this time of separation my Dad found it extremely difficult to cope and started hallucinating. We thought it was just stress related. Apparently not, they have diagnosed him with Lewy Body Dementia. Maybe it was a coincidence it happened whilst Mum was in hospital, or maybe the stress triggered it, I don't know.
A few weeks after my Mum came home in November, my Dad was admitted to a Mental Health Unit as the stress he was causing my Mum, himself and the rest of the family was immense and we were no longer able to cope alone.
To cut a long story short he has rapidly deteriorated, the drugs they are giving him aren't working. His hallucinations and delusions are so vivid and immensely distressing for him and also us, we are all so devastated by this illness and I feel so lost, helpless, sad, angry and totally and utterly devastated by the destructive nature of this disease.
My Dad is no longer the happy, chirpy, witty and extremely friendly guy we all knew as the disease is taking this all away from him and its just not fair. Why my Dad? He did not deserve this. I can't stop crying - it has taken over my whole life. I feel so helpless and hate it every time I have to leave him at the Unit. He sobbed so much tonight as he thinks he is about to be killed for something he has meant to have done. It's just so very, very, very sad.
Thanks for reading.
Gill
I am new to the site and not sure why I have registered, maybe I am just wanting to speak to people who understand the huge amount of stress, strain, suffering and immense upset Dementia causes.
I will try to keep my story short as I could be here all night with tales of what we have all been through as a family over the last 6 months. My Mum and Dad have been married almost 50 years and never spent a day apart. My mum had a triple heart bypass in August last year and ended up being extremely poorly and in hospital over 3 months. During this time of separation my Dad found it extremely difficult to cope and started hallucinating. We thought it was just stress related. Apparently not, they have diagnosed him with Lewy Body Dementia. Maybe it was a coincidence it happened whilst Mum was in hospital, or maybe the stress triggered it, I don't know.
A few weeks after my Mum came home in November, my Dad was admitted to a Mental Health Unit as the stress he was causing my Mum, himself and the rest of the family was immense and we were no longer able to cope alone.
To cut a long story short he has rapidly deteriorated, the drugs they are giving him aren't working. His hallucinations and delusions are so vivid and immensely distressing for him and also us, we are all so devastated by this illness and I feel so lost, helpless, sad, angry and totally and utterly devastated by the destructive nature of this disease.
My Dad is no longer the happy, chirpy, witty and extremely friendly guy we all knew as the disease is taking this all away from him and its just not fair. Why my Dad? He did not deserve this. I can't stop crying - it has taken over my whole life. I feel so helpless and hate it every time I have to leave him at the Unit. He sobbed so much tonight as he thinks he is about to be killed for something he has meant to have done. It's just so very, very, very sad.
Thanks for reading.
Gill