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I have for the past 2years been a carer for both mam and dad. Dad passed away in October last year and mam has been diagnosed with moderate alzheimers and i have managed to get her on aricept tablets.I done really know where to start but mams memory is really getting worse quickly. I am finding it hard to cope with and very lonely as i care for her 7days a week with little breaks although she does sleep in her home on her own but not sure if she does sleep as i get mixed messages yes she sleeps not been awake half the night!! what is right i dont know. she does very little for herself i do all meals paying bills etc all she does is puts the washer on. Not sure if i am doing to much or not. Mam has no motivation to do anything and seems to be content just to sit and watch tv although she wouldn be able to tell you what she has watch can tell with her glaxed eyes.
Of course she is distraught with losing dad he was nearly 91 and they were married 60years but she doesnt remember the month he died and cant cope with any letter that come she seems to obcess over the least little thing so i have started to bring them home. I do try and ask her about month year day etc but she gets annoyed with me and tell me to go home which of course i cant and wouldn leave her upset so have stopped trying to get her brain going. Dont know if i am doing right for doing wrong at times and feel stressed and depressed about it all. Mam doesnt go in the bath she only washes herself down but she would say she has had a bath but i know she hasnt, what can i do she looks clean and tidy enough though. So many issues I could ramble on all night but it will be good to know others in same boat. Tried to see if she would have carers but thats a definated NO at the minute. Am i doing something wrong or what can i do to help her more my mind is blank so any ideas would be greatly appreciated. thanks.
I have for the past 2years been a carer for both mam and dad. Dad passed away in October last year and mam has been diagnosed with moderate alzheimers and i have managed to get her on aricept tablets.I done really know where to start but mams memory is really getting worse quickly. I am finding it hard to cope with and very lonely as i care for her 7days a week with little breaks although she does sleep in her home on her own but not sure if she does sleep as i get mixed messages yes she sleeps not been awake half the night!! what is right i dont know. she does very little for herself i do all meals paying bills etc all she does is puts the washer on. Not sure if i am doing to much or not. Mam has no motivation to do anything and seems to be content just to sit and watch tv although she wouldn be able to tell you what she has watch can tell with her glaxed eyes.
Of course she is distraught with losing dad he was nearly 91 and they were married 60years but she doesnt remember the month he died and cant cope with any letter that come she seems to obcess over the least little thing so i have started to bring them home. I do try and ask her about month year day etc but she gets annoyed with me and tell me to go home which of course i cant and wouldn leave her upset so have stopped trying to get her brain going. Dont know if i am doing right for doing wrong at times and feel stressed and depressed about it all. Mam doesnt go in the bath she only washes herself down but she would say she has had a bath but i know she hasnt, what can i do she looks clean and tidy enough though. So many issues I could ramble on all night but it will be good to know others in same boat. Tried to see if she would have carers but thats a definated NO at the minute. Am i doing something wrong or what can i do to help her more my mind is blank so any ideas would be greatly appreciated. thanks.