I don't know what to do - my dad is obsessed with the bloody tax return at the moment (and also has no idea how to understand time and date anymore, well time is ok, but date is out the window - he keeps talking about 'these new fangled ways of doing the date').
He doesn't understand when we explain to him that the tax return isn't due for at least two months and that he doesn't have to wrory about it. Sometimes he says its a relief to hear that, and other times he just carries on looking at out of date files filled with all his old tax returns which he then finds a letter from 4 years ago from hsi accountant asking for something and he starts saying eh needs to do this etc.
I am going insane. today my mum is away visiting her mother (who also has Alz) so i am home 'daddy wrangling' as i put it. This morning he was ok, but in a bit of a flap as he always is when mum is away. he hangs on her shoulder at all times and is like a shadow. Her being a very independent person cannot stand his clinginess. s he moans about how hopeelss he is all the time and i can't bear it. I've told her many times how i don't want to hear how useless my dad is (which has gone on for years before diagnosis) and that its MY dad she's talking about. I hate seeing their weird relationsihp. she thinks she communicates with him, but its like they're not even in a relationship. they are just two people who are living together. they've been together for 35 years now. they got married fast (too fast). very good example of a reason not to rush inton something with someone you don't know that well! she complains the whole tiem about all the things which are HIM - things he's always been ever since she met him and they now all upset and annoy her.
She said she doesn't know how she is going to cope as she can't be patient all the time. Both of us lose our patience with him because of the endless same stuff OVER and over and over all day every day. I really don't know how not to lose my cool. I have lost my temper before and got very upset when last year he was doing his DVLA form to let them know about his condition which subsequently lost him his license. (which went on for weeks over and over) and when i did flip out and get upset, it somehow snapped him out ofi t - which makes one think that he just needs a big verbal slap as it were and he'll be ok and get off the rut. Its just so hard and i feel so awful as i know it is not fair to get impatient with someone who does not know why someone is being impatient with them.
I heard a great example which was you wouldn't shout at a man with a broken leg for not running to you when you called, so why would you get annoyed with someone who's brain was deteriorating.
My mum was told to get power of attorney in place 6 months ago when he was diagnosed and she still hasn't done anything about it. I think it may now be too late to do anything as my dad wouldn't understand what was being asked of him if they did the interviews that were needed for it. It would be great if we could somehow make it that my mum does the tax returns but my dad won't give it over i don't think.
I'm jsut having a rant really. my mumwanted me and my sister to go to the SPECAL workshops but i don't really see how they are going to help that much.
I think i need to go for a run or i'll explode.
He doesn't understand when we explain to him that the tax return isn't due for at least two months and that he doesn't have to wrory about it. Sometimes he says its a relief to hear that, and other times he just carries on looking at out of date files filled with all his old tax returns which he then finds a letter from 4 years ago from hsi accountant asking for something and he starts saying eh needs to do this etc.
I am going insane. today my mum is away visiting her mother (who also has Alz) so i am home 'daddy wrangling' as i put it. This morning he was ok, but in a bit of a flap as he always is when mum is away. he hangs on her shoulder at all times and is like a shadow. Her being a very independent person cannot stand his clinginess. s he moans about how hopeelss he is all the time and i can't bear it. I've told her many times how i don't want to hear how useless my dad is (which has gone on for years before diagnosis) and that its MY dad she's talking about. I hate seeing their weird relationsihp. she thinks she communicates with him, but its like they're not even in a relationship. they are just two people who are living together. they've been together for 35 years now. they got married fast (too fast). very good example of a reason not to rush inton something with someone you don't know that well! she complains the whole tiem about all the things which are HIM - things he's always been ever since she met him and they now all upset and annoy her.
She said she doesn't know how she is going to cope as she can't be patient all the time. Both of us lose our patience with him because of the endless same stuff OVER and over and over all day every day. I really don't know how not to lose my cool. I have lost my temper before and got very upset when last year he was doing his DVLA form to let them know about his condition which subsequently lost him his license. (which went on for weeks over and over) and when i did flip out and get upset, it somehow snapped him out ofi t - which makes one think that he just needs a big verbal slap as it were and he'll be ok and get off the rut. Its just so hard and i feel so awful as i know it is not fair to get impatient with someone who does not know why someone is being impatient with them.
I heard a great example which was you wouldn't shout at a man with a broken leg for not running to you when you called, so why would you get annoyed with someone who's brain was deteriorating.
My mum was told to get power of attorney in place 6 months ago when he was diagnosed and she still hasn't done anything about it. I think it may now be too late to do anything as my dad wouldn't understand what was being asked of him if they did the interviews that were needed for it. It would be great if we could somehow make it that my mum does the tax returns but my dad won't give it over i don't think.
I'm jsut having a rant really. my mumwanted me and my sister to go to the SPECAL workshops but i don't really see how they are going to help that much.
I think i need to go for a run or i'll explode.
