Hi All,
My husband aged 65 last Christmas was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in March of this year. I've known for quite a long time "that all what not well" but just thought it was part of the ageing process!!!
I'm still working but plan to leave this coming Christmas, my husband doesn't need a carer as such yet, but he is trying to do jobs in the house as he used to do but cannot seem to get anything right. He is unable to plan, understand basics or think for himself, yet when I try to help him he gets so uptight and of course "it's all my fault".
For instance while I was at work last week he went to my daughter's house and cut all the branches off the beautiful trees in her garden, 15 in all, from the bottom to as far as he could reach, my daughter is on holiday and I have had to buy fence panels as she has a young child. My daughter had told us she was getting a professional to trim the tops of the trees. My husband took it on himself to do the job knowing we were both out of the way, sadly he trimmed the bottom instead of the tops.
Can anyone tell me how to cope with these situations without telling him off, I don't want to get on to him but he is such hard work lately. Is this behaviour usual with alzheimers? Any advice would be most appreciated.
Dee
My husband aged 65 last Christmas was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in March of this year. I've known for quite a long time "that all what not well" but just thought it was part of the ageing process!!!
I'm still working but plan to leave this coming Christmas, my husband doesn't need a carer as such yet, but he is trying to do jobs in the house as he used to do but cannot seem to get anything right. He is unable to plan, understand basics or think for himself, yet when I try to help him he gets so uptight and of course "it's all my fault".
For instance while I was at work last week he went to my daughter's house and cut all the branches off the beautiful trees in her garden, 15 in all, from the bottom to as far as he could reach, my daughter is on holiday and I have had to buy fence panels as she has a young child. My daughter had told us she was getting a professional to trim the tops of the trees. My husband took it on himself to do the job knowing we were both out of the way, sadly he trimmed the bottom instead of the tops.
Can anyone tell me how to cope with these situations without telling him off, I don't want to get on to him but he is such hard work lately. Is this behaviour usual with alzheimers? Any advice would be most appreciated.
Dee