Hello all - I've not posted on here for ages, but am drawn back after at least a year; this place is a safe haven to come to when having a wobble! Dad seems to have a particularly aggressive form of dementia - not sure which type as he was never really tested for it... it all seemed so casual but my money's on Vascular Dementia - and has been in his nursing home for just over a year. After selling his house to pay for his care and arguing with social workers (as a trained nurse it was very difficult to keep my temper when I was being told by a social worker that he didn't require nursing care - because he could walk!!! The fact that he couldn't eat, drink, dress, or function without assistance was irrelevant!!) Anyway, after the first very painful few months of Dad being in a nursing home and witnessing his fear that something was amiss... he wasn't sure what because he couldn't quite put his finger on it, it's almost as if Dad relaxed his grip on lucidity & let go and has sunk into the depths of dementia. Physically he is fine - he's very well looked after, warm well fed & I think the carer's genuinely like him but he is now soooooo confused with no idea of time place or person. I find it extremely upsetting to go & visit; and when I do I can only stand it for 10 minutes, and there are always tears in the car outside. He has no idea who I am. I suppose what I'm trying to say is I miss my Dad... I miss everything about my funny, kind, infuriatingly old fashioned but wise & wonderful Dad. Does anyone else chicken out of visiting loved ones or am I just cowardly? Thank you for taking the time to read this, all comments are welcomed, but just putting stuff down has been balm in itself.
Jacqui x
Jacqui x