So my grandpa finally goes into hospital today, to have heart surgery tomorrow. I rang tuesday night to speak to them both, and grandpa answered which was nice because normally you can't talk to him - nannnan kicks up a fuss. I could only speak to him for a short while though because nannan was in the shower and he was anxious to get back to her.
So i rang again last night and spoke to them both. I think it's clear that nannan doesnt realise / doesnt remember that he's going into hospital today and i'm sure she'll be quite shocked and kick up a fuss about 'not being told' today when it happens.
She's going to go and stay at my parents' house whilst he's in the hospital (for a week at least) but i've no idea how that'll go down. I'm sure, again, that she's forgotten.
Mum has made arrangements to work from home / take compassionate leave / have holiday for the next couple of weeks but that's not ideal - I dont know if Nannan will appreciate the effort as I dont think she understands the sacrifice. Mum has a reasonably pressured job and it's certainly not ideal for her to not be in the office. She has a very understanding boss but that doesnt make it 'OK' if you know what I mean.
Fingers crossed for everything going alright tomorrow now, and that his recovery is quick and good. We're still playing the 'yes I know there's help available but i'm going to actively avoid it' game with him, although he DID go up to the Alzheimer's Society yesterday to fill in the forms for carer's allowance so that's something. Problem is, if anyone asked about HIS health, I'm 99% certain he'd have said "Oh, i'm fine, nothing wrong with me", with no mention of the open heart surgery he's about to go through.
Every cloud has a silver lining though - when I spoke to nannan last night, I only had 2 topics of conversation and they kept us going for about 15 minutes, over and over again
Wish us luck although this time it's not so much for the AD sufferer as her carer, my grandfather.
So i rang again last night and spoke to them both. I think it's clear that nannan doesnt realise / doesnt remember that he's going into hospital today and i'm sure she'll be quite shocked and kick up a fuss about 'not being told' today when it happens.
She's going to go and stay at my parents' house whilst he's in the hospital (for a week at least) but i've no idea how that'll go down. I'm sure, again, that she's forgotten.
Mum has made arrangements to work from home / take compassionate leave / have holiday for the next couple of weeks but that's not ideal - I dont know if Nannan will appreciate the effort as I dont think she understands the sacrifice. Mum has a reasonably pressured job and it's certainly not ideal for her to not be in the office. She has a very understanding boss but that doesnt make it 'OK' if you know what I mean.
Fingers crossed for everything going alright tomorrow now, and that his recovery is quick and good. We're still playing the 'yes I know there's help available but i'm going to actively avoid it' game with him, although he DID go up to the Alzheimer's Society yesterday to fill in the forms for carer's allowance so that's something. Problem is, if anyone asked about HIS health, I'm 99% certain he'd have said "Oh, i'm fine, nothing wrong with me", with no mention of the open heart surgery he's about to go through.
Every cloud has a silver lining though - when I spoke to nannan last night, I only had 2 topics of conversation and they kept us going for about 15 minutes, over and over again
Wish us luck although this time it's not so much for the AD sufferer as her carer, my grandfather.