Just felt the need to let you know my lovely mum who has suffered with dementia for the last 10 years sadly passed away on November 10.
she had been in hospital for 7 weeks following a couple of severe infections but she was doing really well and was a lot brighter and less confused than she had been in a long time but it was decided that she needed 24/7 care due to deteriorating health, so we found her a lovely nursing home not too far away from us all, and she had been in there one day when during her first night she suffered a massive stroke and we sat with her on and off for 6 days during which she never regained consciousness.
We hate ourselves because we think we did this to her by putting her in a home although the doctors and nurses assure us she would have had this stroke wherever she was, and it is better she had it with people around her than sat at home alone during the night (which is what would have happened if she had still been at home. )
But how do you we get over the feeling that we let her down because that is what we are feeling at this moment.
Mums funeral was last week and every time I saw her in the chapel of rest I kept asking for her forgiveness becuse I feel so guilty.
We acted out of kindness at the time, it was best for mum, she would not have been safe at home, she could do very little for herself and was doubly incontinent and needed 2 people to assist with her needs but even though we tell ourselves this all the time, the guilty feeling just won't go away.
we are so sad,
she had been in hospital for 7 weeks following a couple of severe infections but she was doing really well and was a lot brighter and less confused than she had been in a long time but it was decided that she needed 24/7 care due to deteriorating health, so we found her a lovely nursing home not too far away from us all, and she had been in there one day when during her first night she suffered a massive stroke and we sat with her on and off for 6 days during which she never regained consciousness.
We hate ourselves because we think we did this to her by putting her in a home although the doctors and nurses assure us she would have had this stroke wherever she was, and it is better she had it with people around her than sat at home alone during the night (which is what would have happened if she had still been at home. )
But how do you we get over the feeling that we let her down because that is what we are feeling at this moment.
Mums funeral was last week and every time I saw her in the chapel of rest I kept asking for her forgiveness becuse I feel so guilty.
We acted out of kindness at the time, it was best for mum, she would not have been safe at home, she could do very little for herself and was doubly incontinent and needed 2 people to assist with her needs but even though we tell ourselves this all the time, the guilty feeling just won't go away.
we are so sad,