Hello All
I don’t know what I am doing wrong but I feel as though as I am jack of all trades and master of none. I am trying so hard to be a good mum, daughter, sister, wife and the all consuming carer that I feel as though I am spread so thinly nothing is good enough.
How do you all manage to stay on top of it all? I feel as though I am struggling now and I have not returned to work yet, I am still on maternity leave and due back some time after Christmas. I find that my constant thoughts are of what needs to be done with mum. Everything seems to irritate me and the people closest to me seem to be getting the full brunt of my emotions. My husband who couldn’t be any more supportive if he tried has to put up with my constant nagging. I even find myself telling him that it is wrong when he comes home from work and starts doing the washing up, that I hadn’t got round to doing. Nothing seems to be good enough.
I thank god that I have two beautiful boys aged 5 months and 20 months who provide me with the reason to get out of bed in the morning.
I keep telling my husband that it won’t always be like this but I fear the alternative. We either have mum as she is now at home with carers and us seeing to her every need or she will be in a home or worse.
I feel as though the true cost of caring is taking its toll on my family with no end in sight. We are waiting for a place at a local home but then the guilt will take over that I couldn’t have done more and I dread that day too. Mum is 61 and has had Alzheimer’s now for approximately 7 years and I have been caring for her now on a daily basis for about 4 years. She is now unable to do most things herself without constant help and assistance.
How do you all find the time to care and cope with everything else life throws at us.
I don’t know what I am doing wrong but I feel as though as I am jack of all trades and master of none. I am trying so hard to be a good mum, daughter, sister, wife and the all consuming carer that I feel as though I am spread so thinly nothing is good enough.
How do you all manage to stay on top of it all? I feel as though I am struggling now and I have not returned to work yet, I am still on maternity leave and due back some time after Christmas. I find that my constant thoughts are of what needs to be done with mum. Everything seems to irritate me and the people closest to me seem to be getting the full brunt of my emotions. My husband who couldn’t be any more supportive if he tried has to put up with my constant nagging. I even find myself telling him that it is wrong when he comes home from work and starts doing the washing up, that I hadn’t got round to doing. Nothing seems to be good enough.
I thank god that I have two beautiful boys aged 5 months and 20 months who provide me with the reason to get out of bed in the morning.
I keep telling my husband that it won’t always be like this but I fear the alternative. We either have mum as she is now at home with carers and us seeing to her every need or she will be in a home or worse.
I feel as though the true cost of caring is taking its toll on my family with no end in sight. We are waiting for a place at a local home but then the guilt will take over that I couldn’t have done more and I dread that day too. Mum is 61 and has had Alzheimer’s now for approximately 7 years and I have been caring for her now on a daily basis for about 4 years. She is now unable to do most things herself without constant help and assistance.
How do you all find the time to care and cope with everything else life throws at us.