just wanted you all to know the way my dad was neglected when he had to go into emergency respite in march. my mum was rushed into hospital and although my sister and i were his main carers (we always stayed until he was asleep) because of children we were unable to stay all night once he was asleep that would be him most times until morning and mum was fine with that. the night my mum went into hospital my sister stayed with dad the following morning his carers came to wash him and dress him they strip washed him he had no sores on him at all they even bathed his feet in a bowl. i rang his social worker and she arranged for us to take him to a home for respite at this point we were all very emotionally drained mum was seriously ill we thought we were going to lose her. social worker said she had found it hard to find anywhere but this one was a good drive away. my sister and i drove to home my dad walked into home bless him he didnt have a clue what was going on.On arrival i thought it was a bit grubby but it was old and so not as modern as other homes. the carers seemed very nice were concerned about mum and said not to worry about dad as they would look after him. We left in tears but felt reassured dad would be ok when we phoned later that day they said dad had settled in well .we were at the hospital most of time ss said not to beat ourselves up about not going to see dad he was fine but to concentrate on mum. we phoned all the time and really thought he was ok. one of the carers said dad was not interacting but we didnt worry about that.then he phoned and asked if dad had ever had a stroke as he seemed to be leaning to one side we said no they said they would keep an eye on him and when we phoned later that day they said he was fine. my older sister then went to see him whilst we were at hospital with mum she phoned in tears saying dad was not himself he totally seemed out of it he had asked if dad had been bathed he wasnt even on list. we phoned the home to tell them we were coming to see dad the following morning(i think now we shouldnt have warned them) on arrival dad was sitting in wheel chair at table carers were sitting with him.They said he was in wheel chair as he was having difficulty walking we thought it was another stage of his ad they were lovely or so we thought dad kept reaching his hand out we got him a drink he drank it so quickly we got him another one he was dehydrated! in our naivety we thought they were doing best for dad we were still worried sick about mum. On the 9th morning of dad being there carer phoned and said dad had got some blisters on his feet and were going to call doctor we kept in contact all day and was told doctor had prescribed anti biotics over the phone and that dad was ok. we had just got back from hospital when they phoned to say they had to call ambulance and they kept saying they were sorry. my sister and i arrived at a&e before dad within 10 mins we were called in when i saw dad i cried i thought he was dying his breathing was shallow he was yellow(sepsis) doctors were all over him putting in no end of drips. they asked us how long dad had been in home and then showed us his feet, top of thigh, and back he had terrible terrible pressure sores grade 4 hospital took photos doctor said he doubted my dad had even had his socks changed when in home no wonder he couldnt walk. luckily they managed to stabilize him . the following day i phoned ss told her what had happened she told me to phone police(however they said it wasnt anything to do with them) and to write a letter of complaint which i did. we were now visiting mum and dad not knowing if they would be coming home. dad was in for four weeks but never really got over it he wasnt allowed home had to go into nursing care mum came home about the week before dad. there have been four safe guard meetings since the fifth is tom and im really going to explode if carers continue to lie. i cant tell you how good ss have been at the last meeting the carer denied phoning and asking about dad having stroke, they are saying he was put on pressure mattress i know he wasnt. ss have told me that my dad had fallen twice whilst there something we werent informed about. they also have said care plan notes have been added too since the first time they looked at them. i cant tell you how angry i am as we really believed the carers cared! dad never really got over this and died 5 weeks ago. he was a vunerable adult needing prompting for everything they just left him. my dad couldnt defend himself but my god im going to fight for him this cant happen to anyone else. lorraine x