Just heard five days post assessment that crossroads won't provide a carer at home for mum because we have to keep the outside doors locked as she is constantly trying to go "home". The carer would have had the keys of course. I don't know how to tell my dad.
Mum always accepts that the doors are locked and goes and sits down for five minutes before starting the rigmarole all over again. Reasoning with her is not an option as she has lost all reason and gets very very angry.
I don't know whether any agency will help now. I don't know that I can bear to start this all over again, but I suppose I have to. My sister didn't even ring me from Monday when I phoned her in tears of exhaustion from the last few weeks and she was too busy to talk.
Should I say that now is the time to step back and let my parents just suffer so much that the only option is a care home? I have been trying really hard and giving them priority for a year now, since mum got very bad, and we seem no further on.
Mum always accepts that the doors are locked and goes and sits down for five minutes before starting the rigmarole all over again. Reasoning with her is not an option as she has lost all reason and gets very very angry.
I don't know whether any agency will help now. I don't know that I can bear to start this all over again, but I suppose I have to. My sister didn't even ring me from Monday when I phoned her in tears of exhaustion from the last few weeks and she was too busy to talk.
Should I say that now is the time to step back and let my parents just suffer so much that the only option is a care home? I have been trying really hard and giving them priority for a year now, since mum got very bad, and we seem no further on.