Hello, I haven't been here for a while.My Mum is still in the care home and has been there over a year now. She keeps telling me she wants to die. It's a lovely home and she has no complaints with it, only with her state of health both mental and physical. Some days she seems ok, i.e.happyish, those are the days when the dementia is worse.Other days she is sad and wishes to die and asks what she did that was so awful that she should have to suffer in this way. She hates the indignity of soiling herself, hates being always in pain in spite of the medications, hates feeling tired and low all the time.
I am coming to the point where I dread visiting her as I don't know what to do or say. I still go twice a week and try to take her out on one of those days.She likes to go for a drive sometimes.
Food has become an issue too, she eats very little.If it wasn't for the fortisips she'd fade away but she doesn't like drinking them. She says nothing tastes nice and she isn't hungry anyway.The staff are very good with her but she gets fed up with being encouraged to eat and drink when she doesn't feel the need to.
I have no idea what meds she is on now or where she is at in the dementia stages.I lost track when she went into care.It has taken me a long while to relinquish those things having spent so long in charge of them.
Sorry if this seems like an incoherent ramble-it probably is, but I just needed to talk to people who have similar feelings and experiences or at least understand what my Mum is suffering.My lovely husband tries hard to be supportive but he doesn't understand really.
Viv
I am coming to the point where I dread visiting her as I don't know what to do or say. I still go twice a week and try to take her out on one of those days.She likes to go for a drive sometimes.
Food has become an issue too, she eats very little.If it wasn't for the fortisips she'd fade away but she doesn't like drinking them. She says nothing tastes nice and she isn't hungry anyway.The staff are very good with her but she gets fed up with being encouraged to eat and drink when she doesn't feel the need to.
I have no idea what meds she is on now or where she is at in the dementia stages.I lost track when she went into care.It has taken me a long while to relinquish those things having spent so long in charge of them.
Sorry if this seems like an incoherent ramble-it probably is, but I just needed to talk to people who have similar feelings and experiences or at least understand what my Mum is suffering.My lovely husband tries hard to be supportive but he doesn't understand really.
Viv