Hi guys
This is my first time on here and feel the need to express my feelings being worried about Dad
Mam has had Alzhiemers for 6 years now and good old Dad has had one hell of a shock to his world when he became a full time carer after retireing at 65.
He is one proud Dad and will not ask for help.
I have sorted out respite for him 2 days a week, sorted extra money for him as the carer, sorted their house issues, got him a social worker and made sure he gets time away when I look after her.
He asked for none of the above !
All I get is "I am fine". HE CLEARLY IS NOT !
The basic hygiene for both of them has gone downhill, they are recently on a holiday abroad when she lashed out and he was so shaken by this. I am still awaiting a call to see if the spanish hosiptal are releasing her as they have not come home yet. They were due home 14/9
I am there so much for them but feel I nag Dad when he does not help himself to help me. I am at a loss what to do for someone who is clearly not coping but will not address this.
I am unsure who I feel sorry for the most, Mam or Dad
Anyone else have this experience.
Rooby x
This is my first time on here and feel the need to express my feelings being worried about Dad
Mam has had Alzhiemers for 6 years now and good old Dad has had one hell of a shock to his world when he became a full time carer after retireing at 65.
He is one proud Dad and will not ask for help.
I have sorted out respite for him 2 days a week, sorted extra money for him as the carer, sorted their house issues, got him a social worker and made sure he gets time away when I look after her.
He asked for none of the above !
All I get is "I am fine". HE CLEARLY IS NOT !
The basic hygiene for both of them has gone downhill, they are recently on a holiday abroad when she lashed out and he was so shaken by this. I am still awaiting a call to see if the spanish hosiptal are releasing her as they have not come home yet. They were due home 14/9
I am there so much for them but feel I nag Dad when he does not help himself to help me. I am at a loss what to do for someone who is clearly not coping but will not address this.
I am unsure who I feel sorry for the most, Mam or Dad
Anyone else have this experience.
Rooby x