Am I being selfish...? Since my partner was diagnosed in April of this year I have hardly left his side .Iaccept that Alzhiemers i is a dreadful disease and that he needs me more than ever, but what about my needs? Physically he is much stronger than me although he is fourteen years older than I am. I have rheumatoid arthritis ,angina and very high Blood pressure. Becauise of the Alzheimers I now have to think for us both and often be "one step ahead " to pre-empt problems. I really am sooo tired. I have always been houseproud and continue to do all my own housework constantly picking up after James closing drawers cupboards etc. (these have alwasy been opened and rummaged through by someone else.. not James ) .
Today my son has asked us to go over for tea an invitation I gratefully accepted it means I dont have to prepare a meal for us and I get to spend some time with my sons two daughters and new baby boy.
James has announced he is not going!! He says "you can go if you want to"... My dilema is I dont want to leave him on his own he says he will be alright but I know that if I go he will create when I get home and think I have been out all day instead of a couple of hours. Also I will have to clear all the mess he will have made whilst hunting for some imaginary important object or worse still he will attempt to cut the hedge (he has been threatening to do this all week) using large electric hedge shears putting himself in danger. We have had a blazing argument and I am on the verge of walking out ....sorry to ramble on butb how do other tp members cope any advise would be appreciated. love Jude1950
Today my son has asked us to go over for tea an invitation I gratefully accepted it means I dont have to prepare a meal for us and I get to spend some time with my sons two daughters and new baby boy.
James has announced he is not going!! He says "you can go if you want to"... My dilema is I dont want to leave him on his own he says he will be alright but I know that if I go he will create when I get home and think I have been out all day instead of a couple of hours. Also I will have to clear all the mess he will have made whilst hunting for some imaginary important object or worse still he will attempt to cut the hedge (he has been threatening to do this all week) using large electric hedge shears putting himself in danger. We have had a blazing argument and I am on the verge of walking out ....sorry to ramble on butb how do other tp members cope any advise would be appreciated. love Jude1950