Sorry, its late, im feeling so alone and so frightened, im exhausted but my mind wont switch off.
Wheres my Mum, the lovely, beautiful, kind and caring best friend i had ?? where has she gone ? why cant i remember her as she was, all i can see is whats here now, infront of me and its not nice.
Mum has been dreadful again today, especially tonight, the same old thing, night after night after night, this isn't our house, who will be coming in after we go, where shall we sleep, are the beds made up, what are the rooms like, wheres the bathroom........ wheres Harry (my dad who died last year) so then i take her upstairs, show her all the familiar things,her photographs, it settles her for a short while, then it starts all over again.
Tonight, she got angry and very agitated, she wouldnt be pacified, she went up the stairs, came down, went up, came down, i lost count of how many times, i took her up to bed, usually she gets her nightdress on and gets into bed herself, i go up and check on her, kiss her goodnight, tonight she was gone, had let herself out of the front door, luckily she hadnt got very far, just into the close where we live, my husband and i went to get her back indoors and Mum punched my throat and poked my face, she was furious, my husband told her to get inside and get to bed which she did fully clothed, he asked her why she had hit me and she said " i wanted to shut her mouth up" all i had said was come inside now mum.
Im devestated, i will phone her CPN in the morning, yet again, and no doubt she will suggest tweaking her medication yet again and to wait for the nurologist appointment on the 17th and for our respite on the 24th - the usual answer to my cry for help.
I just want the mum i used to have thats all. I want to remember her laughing and all the good things we used to share together - why oh why cant i remember those times.
Am i doing something wrong to make her behave this way ??
i really am trying my best, but its getting so hard.
so sorry, just needed to talk and everyone is fast asleep - i wish i was.
Wheres my Mum, the lovely, beautiful, kind and caring best friend i had ?? where has she gone ? why cant i remember her as she was, all i can see is whats here now, infront of me and its not nice.
Mum has been dreadful again today, especially tonight, the same old thing, night after night after night, this isn't our house, who will be coming in after we go, where shall we sleep, are the beds made up, what are the rooms like, wheres the bathroom........ wheres Harry (my dad who died last year) so then i take her upstairs, show her all the familiar things,her photographs, it settles her for a short while, then it starts all over again.
Tonight, she got angry and very agitated, she wouldnt be pacified, she went up the stairs, came down, went up, came down, i lost count of how many times, i took her up to bed, usually she gets her nightdress on and gets into bed herself, i go up and check on her, kiss her goodnight, tonight she was gone, had let herself out of the front door, luckily she hadnt got very far, just into the close where we live, my husband and i went to get her back indoors and Mum punched my throat and poked my face, she was furious, my husband told her to get inside and get to bed which she did fully clothed, he asked her why she had hit me and she said " i wanted to shut her mouth up" all i had said was come inside now mum.
Im devestated, i will phone her CPN in the morning, yet again, and no doubt she will suggest tweaking her medication yet again and to wait for the nurologist appointment on the 17th and for our respite on the 24th - the usual answer to my cry for help.
I just want the mum i used to have thats all. I want to remember her laughing and all the good things we used to share together - why oh why cant i remember those times.
Am i doing something wrong to make her behave this way ??
i really am trying my best, but its getting so hard.
so sorry, just needed to talk and everyone is fast asleep - i wish i was.