Hello Everyone, I am Mairs and my mum has alzheimers and I am doing quite a lot of phone support for her as she forgets stuff all the time. She is in a great nursing home which is part of a community for older people. My dad lives there too in a seprarate flat - where they both used to live when she was less confused. She is pretty angry about this arrangement and confused and thinks he should be doing more to get them back together. She misses him terribly.
Mum has lived her life as a caring woman always with time to help and support others. She has supported my father in his work which is people orientated. Since the alzheimers, it is as if the top has come off the bottle and it is my father who is getting most of the flack! They are both very different types of people and now Mum is bringing up all the things that she has never said to Dad, things that have been hard for her but she did not speak of. She says them over and over again and then tells him how much she loves him. Clearly these are two sides of the same love. Where once she was sweet, when she is in the "lets say it" mode, she is relentless, calling him names, swearing and it is wearing him out. He has just had a week break and is dreading going back to the front line.
Any tips about how a husband can deal with this would be gratefully received?
Thanks for reading this.
Mairs
Mum has lived her life as a caring woman always with time to help and support others. She has supported my father in his work which is people orientated. Since the alzheimers, it is as if the top has come off the bottle and it is my father who is getting most of the flack! They are both very different types of people and now Mum is bringing up all the things that she has never said to Dad, things that have been hard for her but she did not speak of. She says them over and over again and then tells him how much she loves him. Clearly these are two sides of the same love. Where once she was sweet, when she is in the "lets say it" mode, she is relentless, calling him names, swearing and it is wearing him out. He has just had a week break and is dreading going back to the front line.
Any tips about how a husband can deal with this would be gratefully received?
Thanks for reading this.
Mairs