I've just read Serena's Blog about her having to pack up the contents of her family home as it will have to be sold to pay for her mother's nursing home fees and though I am not in her situation it touched me greatly.
Anyone reading this will have to read my previous threads to understand but my uncle has recently been appointed a Panel Deputy (independent solicitor) by the Court of Protection to manage his property and affairs. I was relieved about this decision. I thought my uncle was one of the lucky ones, he is quite a wealthy man and can afford his own private nursing care without selling his property. But I learned today that in his circumstances the property will still need to be sold - reason: the continuing expenses and responsibilities of maintaining an unoccupied property. Apparently these costs can be very high and in light of the fact that my uncle is very unlikely to ever be able to look after himself again it would seem to be the most sensible way forward. Legal reasoning, not mine.
I have explained to the deputy that if asked, my uncle will not agree to his property being sold, and if he were to be told otherwise he would lose the will to live. Despite being deemed as lacking in mental capacity to make decisions about his affairs he is totally aware of his home and possessions - they mean everything to him. I know some people with dementia forget their recent past and think they are still living in the house they had decades ago, but this does not apply to my uncle, at least not at this stage in his illness.
Surely the deputy will understand and will not look at this as a purely financial decision? I do hope so but my own solicitor has warned me that if I question or challenge the authority of the deputy then it may affect our relationship with him. Oh my god. What have I now got to deal with? It may turn out OK but I am very very concerned that my uncle is being subsumed by things he is powerless to fight against. I've done everything I can do to help him but to no avail it would seem.
I am not looking for sympathy or help. I just think I need to speak up for my uncle in what seems to me to be a crazy predicament and wondered what others on this forum think about this. Should I write to the newspapers or am I being unrealistic in my expectations?
Anyone reading this will have to read my previous threads to understand but my uncle has recently been appointed a Panel Deputy (independent solicitor) by the Court of Protection to manage his property and affairs. I was relieved about this decision. I thought my uncle was one of the lucky ones, he is quite a wealthy man and can afford his own private nursing care without selling his property. But I learned today that in his circumstances the property will still need to be sold - reason: the continuing expenses and responsibilities of maintaining an unoccupied property. Apparently these costs can be very high and in light of the fact that my uncle is very unlikely to ever be able to look after himself again it would seem to be the most sensible way forward. Legal reasoning, not mine.
I have explained to the deputy that if asked, my uncle will not agree to his property being sold, and if he were to be told otherwise he would lose the will to live. Despite being deemed as lacking in mental capacity to make decisions about his affairs he is totally aware of his home and possessions - they mean everything to him. I know some people with dementia forget their recent past and think they are still living in the house they had decades ago, but this does not apply to my uncle, at least not at this stage in his illness.
Surely the deputy will understand and will not look at this as a purely financial decision? I do hope so but my own solicitor has warned me that if I question or challenge the authority of the deputy then it may affect our relationship with him. Oh my god. What have I now got to deal with? It may turn out OK but I am very very concerned that my uncle is being subsumed by things he is powerless to fight against. I've done everything I can do to help him but to no avail it would seem.
I am not looking for sympathy or help. I just think I need to speak up for my uncle in what seems to me to be a crazy predicament and wondered what others on this forum think about this. Should I write to the newspapers or am I being unrealistic in my expectations?