Hi All
I'm really struggling to cope with Grandad at the moment.
He had a nasty stomach bug 3 weeks ago and whilst he has fully recovered (from the bug, anyway), he is still extremely confused, and I'm starting to wonder whether he will ever get back to how he was before.
Whenever I go round, I just never know what to expect. Yesterday I spoke to the carer who was there at 10.00am, and he was fine. by the time I arraived at 12.00 to make his lunch he had felt tired, looked at teh clock and it said 11.00 so he thought it must be night-time and had gone to bed. he was amazed when I said it was lunchtime . he refused to get up/dressed and refused to have a meal. After about 20 minutes he decided he was going back to bed, got up, walked out of the lounge and went to bed.
Since he was ill, his appetite has decreased dramatically. For example, in the last week, I would say he's eaten less than half what he was eating before he was ill.
Mum and Dad are away for the weekend, and my husband's working, so I've got Grandad to sort, and I'll have to take my kids with me .
Every day that I have to go to Grandad's I wake up with a feeling of dread in my stomach. When I'm there I just can't wait to leave. Then I feel guilty for feeling like this. I'm constantly feeling uptight, and on the edge of tears a lot of the time.
I can't tell Mum and dad how I feel as they're both struggling, too. They also rely on me a lot as they both work full time. I can't say too much to my husband as he already thinks I do too much and just says " you know what I think" .
I think Grandads reaching the stage where we will soon need to be thinking about a permanent care home, but dad's just not ready for that. he's thinking in terms of the end of the year. I just don't see how I can carry on like this for another 6 months.
Sorry for rambling on.
I know you can't help. I just needed to tell someone.
Love sal xx
I'm really struggling to cope with Grandad at the moment.
He had a nasty stomach bug 3 weeks ago and whilst he has fully recovered (from the bug, anyway), he is still extremely confused, and I'm starting to wonder whether he will ever get back to how he was before.
Whenever I go round, I just never know what to expect. Yesterday I spoke to the carer who was there at 10.00am, and he was fine. by the time I arraived at 12.00 to make his lunch he had felt tired, looked at teh clock and it said 11.00 so he thought it must be night-time and had gone to bed. he was amazed when I said it was lunchtime . he refused to get up/dressed and refused to have a meal. After about 20 minutes he decided he was going back to bed, got up, walked out of the lounge and went to bed.
Since he was ill, his appetite has decreased dramatically. For example, in the last week, I would say he's eaten less than half what he was eating before he was ill.
Mum and Dad are away for the weekend, and my husband's working, so I've got Grandad to sort, and I'll have to take my kids with me .
Every day that I have to go to Grandad's I wake up with a feeling of dread in my stomach. When I'm there I just can't wait to leave. Then I feel guilty for feeling like this. I'm constantly feeling uptight, and on the edge of tears a lot of the time.
I can't tell Mum and dad how I feel as they're both struggling, too. They also rely on me a lot as they both work full time. I can't say too much to my husband as he already thinks I do too much and just says " you know what I think" .
I think Grandads reaching the stage where we will soon need to be thinking about a permanent care home, but dad's just not ready for that. he's thinking in terms of the end of the year. I just don't see how I can carry on like this for another 6 months.
Sorry for rambling on.
I know you can't help. I just needed to tell someone.
Love sal xx