Hi Everyone!
All I do is seem to whinge whilst on TP-wouldn't want to change tradition so, here goes!!!
I posted a thread a while ago when my Mum had an 'episode' in Tesco, she thought that I was stealing and made a scene-it was so embarrasing at first as she looks so 'normal' to others. After the initial embarrasment, I felt sad and angry as my 'real Mum' knows that I'd never do that and sometimes it's hard to look passed the Dementia-it hurts to hear those words come out of your mum's mouth.
However, it wasn't mentioned for a few weeks-or so I thought until last thursday I took my mum to buy a new blouse for my brothers wedding (which was no easy task believe me!!) and when she got home that evening with my Stepdad she blurted out that I stole the blouse from the shop and that I had a code with my children so that they knew what to do. Unusually she had no trouble with this sentence, normally it's very hard for her to piece a sentence together but she'd obviously been thinking about this one all day. So she was shown the receipt that shut her up for a minute but didn't sink in!
My stepdad was due to bring my Mum to me the next week whilst he went to work for the day, so we had a conversation about what Mum had accused me of and how she had 'got it stuck in her head' and it wouldn't go that i'm a comman thief, I was upset but it was easy to remedy as I just would have to be mega prepared before a visit and just not ever take her shopping anymore. I thought i had found the answer to that situation until on mum's last visit she didn't trust me at all and wouldn't let my stepdad leave her with me. It's really hurtful-I know, I know-it's the AZ speaking but this comes out of nothing and i go out of my way to make every provision for my Mum so that she is happy but I cant do it do anything this time-I'm rendered useless. I want to help -but I cant, Mum wont let me.
She is getting more and more paranoid about other things too, but not to this extreme-how can I help when I'm not allowed too? I love my Mum.
I feel for my Stepdad, I think that he feels guilty that mum is thinking these things but obviously there's nothing that he can do.
I had a really bad evening last week and I couldn't level with myself and give myself the good 'talking too' that i normally do when I'm feeling like that. I think that the hardest part is that everyone is 'Useless' with this horrible illness and the most you can do is be there and help-but now I cant even do that.
It's so frustrating for me - goodness knows what it's like for my Mum and Stepdad.
My Mum also has a problem with her feet, her toes have gone black and swollen with her nail's dead. My stepdad has taken her to the doc's but even they don't know what it is-it looks like frostbite but apparently it isn't that either.
Anyone else had problems with feet? I'm a Nail Technician aswell but am still completely without any knowledge!
Rant, rant, rant -oh by the way Happy Easter!!!
Thanks,
MandyW
All I do is seem to whinge whilst on TP-wouldn't want to change tradition so, here goes!!!
I posted a thread a while ago when my Mum had an 'episode' in Tesco, she thought that I was stealing and made a scene-it was so embarrasing at first as she looks so 'normal' to others. After the initial embarrasment, I felt sad and angry as my 'real Mum' knows that I'd never do that and sometimes it's hard to look passed the Dementia-it hurts to hear those words come out of your mum's mouth.
However, it wasn't mentioned for a few weeks-or so I thought until last thursday I took my mum to buy a new blouse for my brothers wedding (which was no easy task believe me!!) and when she got home that evening with my Stepdad she blurted out that I stole the blouse from the shop and that I had a code with my children so that they knew what to do. Unusually she had no trouble with this sentence, normally it's very hard for her to piece a sentence together but she'd obviously been thinking about this one all day. So she was shown the receipt that shut her up for a minute but didn't sink in!
My stepdad was due to bring my Mum to me the next week whilst he went to work for the day, so we had a conversation about what Mum had accused me of and how she had 'got it stuck in her head' and it wouldn't go that i'm a comman thief, I was upset but it was easy to remedy as I just would have to be mega prepared before a visit and just not ever take her shopping anymore. I thought i had found the answer to that situation until on mum's last visit she didn't trust me at all and wouldn't let my stepdad leave her with me. It's really hurtful-I know, I know-it's the AZ speaking but this comes out of nothing and i go out of my way to make every provision for my Mum so that she is happy but I cant do it do anything this time-I'm rendered useless. I want to help -but I cant, Mum wont let me.
She is getting more and more paranoid about other things too, but not to this extreme-how can I help when I'm not allowed too? I love my Mum.
I feel for my Stepdad, I think that he feels guilty that mum is thinking these things but obviously there's nothing that he can do.
I had a really bad evening last week and I couldn't level with myself and give myself the good 'talking too' that i normally do when I'm feeling like that. I think that the hardest part is that everyone is 'Useless' with this horrible illness and the most you can do is be there and help-but now I cant even do that.
It's so frustrating for me - goodness knows what it's like for my Mum and Stepdad.
My Mum also has a problem with her feet, her toes have gone black and swollen with her nail's dead. My stepdad has taken her to the doc's but even they don't know what it is-it looks like frostbite but apparently it isn't that either.
Anyone else had problems with feet? I'm a Nail Technician aswell but am still completely without any knowledge!
Rant, rant, rant -oh by the way Happy Easter!!!
Thanks,
MandyW