Hi my friends
Well I took Tom to see the district nurse (fantastic, the ulcer his hip appears to be healed, that has taken me over 12 months to sort)
Anyway I asked for an OT assessment for ME; she looked at Tom and I said Oh yes Tom as well.
NOW I know what will happen (been there, got the t shirt, burnt the video) I become invisible
Yes I am aware of all Tom's problems, but over 20years I have always sorted them as best I can, I don't need an OT to suggest any changes in how Tom manages (maybe, later but not, now. New ideas are forbidden.) Look what happened when I moved the fridge last May, he has only found it twice. He can put the kettle on, that's it.
But I do need the OT to sort me at least a perching stool or we will only be eating cold food I can prepare sitting at the table. Oh and they are not removing the Bath While I can manage to step in the bath and use the overhead shower we are fine, Tom can (with prompting manage a bath, but he needs to sit and feel safe) Some grab rails at he doors would good (for us both)
Took his daughter shopping, told her he was refusing respite while I'm in hospital. She said what a shame I couldn't just take him and drop him at the home I take that as a no for any help from her
Oh but the next night she phoned and asked if I would take her to a garden centre to get some plants for her Mum's grave, as they were cheaper there (have I got gullible tattooed on my forehead.) She has three daughters all with cars, two I've not seen for 18months (not here, at a wedding) and one who thought I would not go into hospital and leave Tom at home alone, she lives 5min on foot away, and yes I'm always available to keep an eye on the boys when they are away, and take run over boy with broken bones to the hospital)
Told you I am being a selfish bi##h.
Am going to be made radioactive on Monday (with associated scans,) then on the 24th I will know what they intend to do and can get SS involved with care for Tom
Thanks for reading, any ideas welcome
Well I took Tom to see the district nurse (fantastic, the ulcer his hip appears to be healed, that has taken me over 12 months to sort)
Anyway I asked for an OT assessment for ME; she looked at Tom and I said Oh yes Tom as well.
NOW I know what will happen (been there, got the t shirt, burnt the video) I become invisible
Yes I am aware of all Tom's problems, but over 20years I have always sorted them as best I can, I don't need an OT to suggest any changes in how Tom manages (maybe, later but not, now. New ideas are forbidden.) Look what happened when I moved the fridge last May, he has only found it twice. He can put the kettle on, that's it.
But I do need the OT to sort me at least a perching stool or we will only be eating cold food I can prepare sitting at the table. Oh and they are not removing the Bath While I can manage to step in the bath and use the overhead shower we are fine, Tom can (with prompting manage a bath, but he needs to sit and feel safe) Some grab rails at he doors would good (for us both)
Took his daughter shopping, told her he was refusing respite while I'm in hospital. She said what a shame I couldn't just take him and drop him at the home I take that as a no for any help from her
Oh but the next night she phoned and asked if I would take her to a garden centre to get some plants for her Mum's grave, as they were cheaper there (have I got gullible tattooed on my forehead.) She has three daughters all with cars, two I've not seen for 18months (not here, at a wedding) and one who thought I would not go into hospital and leave Tom at home alone, she lives 5min on foot away, and yes I'm always available to keep an eye on the boys when they are away, and take run over boy with broken bones to the hospital)
Told you I am being a selfish bi##h.
Am going to be made radioactive on Monday (with associated scans,) then on the 24th I will know what they intend to do and can get SS involved with care for Tom
Thanks for reading, any ideas welcome