Toilet problems at night

lesleyh

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Apr 30, 2008
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I wonder if anyone has any thoughts on what might be the problem here?

My dad gets up to go to the toilet through the night, gets there OK, but ends up with wet trousers and a wet floor.

The thing is, he's absolutely fine with the (same) toilet through the day. The other thing is that this doesn't happen every night - maybe a couple of times a week - but when it does happen, it's maybe three times in the one night.

I can't work out what's behind it, but feel that if we could figure out what the problem is then we might be able to do something about it!

Any ideas / suggestions appreciated!
 

BeckyJan

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Nov 28, 2005
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Hello|:

Its difficult to answer.

When my husband was at this stage he agreed to use pads within his pj bottoms!! It did not always work but sometimes avoided too much wetness on the floor etc. The other possibility is using a 'bottle' to reduce the time in getting to the toilet. Would he do that??

I do believe a good Incontinence Nurse should help you here (I think you can obtain through your GP surgery). It did not work for us as ours was on long term sick leave :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

Maybe others will come along with great ideas :confused::confused:
 

lesleyh

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Apr 30, 2008
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Thanks BeckyJan. An incontinence nurse hadn't occurred to me - I guess my dad doesn't seem "incontinent" - he knows when he needs to go and can just about get there... but perhaps that sort of thing also comes under the remit of an incontinence specialist???

It may be worth trying the pads on the PJ bottoms too. How do you go about sourcing these?

Lesley
 

Grannie G

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Apr 3, 2006
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My husband had less control during the night than through the day and I put it down to being less alert, more sleepy and so less aware.
When young childen are being toilet trained they are dry during the day, well before they are dry at night. I think it`s comparable.
 

BeckyJan

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I believe the Incontinence Nurse can arrange for a 'free' supply of pads for you!!!

I never had much success with this so I got our pads through a company recommended by a TP member - if you really need it I will pm the details.

Many here on TP recommend the pads from B...s (local store) - they are a good idea whilst trying out different solutions.

It is a difficult stage. I hope you get the support you need here on TP!
Love
 

susiesue

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Mar 15, 2007
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Hi Lesley

My husband has exactly the same problem, specially during the night and we frequently land up with a wet floor - however during the day it is not so much of a problem, but he does have to go immediately he gets the urge:eek:

We find pull ups are more suitable than pads as he always has a problem 're-arranging' them as he still visits the toilet himself.
 

Christin

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Jun 29, 2009
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We have a similar problem here at night but its simply because in his sleepy state at night FIL forgets to remove his pyjama bottoms. Perhaps the same is happening.
 

Sunflower10

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Feb 9, 2010
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Hi there.

Over the last few weeks I have had the same problem with my mum who is 60 with AD, although the problem has started during the day as well. I am unsure if she is yet classed as incontinent but she usually knows that she needs the loo and will go to the bathroom but seems to get confused in actually using the toilet, she has on occasions gone next to it or sat on it with her underwear up or tried to sit on the bath:eek:. We have started using the pull up incontinence pants although we have purchased them ourselves at the moment as we have not yet been referred to the incontinence nurse. They seem to catch the majority of any accidents making the event less stressfull all round. I hope things work out with your dad.
 

lesleyh

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Apr 30, 2008
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West Midlands
Huge thanks for all the responses. It's somehow heartening to know that this is a common problem, and there are various potential reasons. It's particularly cheering to know that in most cases things can be made easier by pads or similar.

I'll suggest to my mum (dad's main carer) that she try to make contact with the continence nurse via their GP/similar. And that in the meantime they have a go at using pull-ups.

Lesley
 

BeverleyY

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Jan 29, 2008
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Ashford, Kent
Hi

Where is the toilet in relation to your Dad's bed/bedroom? Is it a case that he wakes up a little disorientated and then just doesn't get to the bathroom in time? Do you have lights on?? It may help.

My Dad has an ensuite bathroom, and I make sure his bathroom door is wide open and light on when he is in bed so that if he wakes to go to toilet, there is no room for disorientation.

Best wishes.

Beverley x