So pleased that your GP has responded so well - I imagine you will have already packed an overnight bag for Alan in case she wants him to be admitted immediately?
I rang and spoke to the care home Manager. I didn't expect her to remember either me or Alan but she did. She thought he was incredible and could see that with the right stimuli Alan was able to function very well.
I told her of our situation. I told her I had been breaking down and that Alan was ill. I said that once Alan's illness was sorted that I felt I needed to review my whole situation and that I was thinking of respite with Alan having the use of the Crossroads sitters. She said that she had no objection whatsoever and that she would do anything possible to accommodate both our needs. I said the weekly routine we have with them needed reviewing and she just was so kind and said that they would accommodate whatever it was that was needed. We are going to meet up to have a heart to heart and a thorough review. I told her that I'd rung up in a state a few nights ago and that whoever it was that I spoke to was wonderful and that it helped. She was pleased about that and said that they were available 24 hours a day.
My stars & tootsies, there ARE still fairy godmothers!! Helen, I'm so SO glad someone has come up trumps for you, and is willing to work with you on what you & Alan need.
Now Please, do NOT get an attack of the 'guilts' if presented with a chance for a break A.S.A.P.
If you have a breakdown under the strain (& you have been
very close recently) then BOTH of you are sunk.
Accept whatever help is offered for BOTH OF YOU; do not let the Guilt-monster, your pride, your ego or any other reason derail an opportunity.
(I hope you know me well enough by now to take this as it's meant, not as it {perhaps} sounds!)
When the immediate pressures are relieved, you will be able to think more clearly about how best to marshal & rearrange the available help to proceed for the future.
There's little chance you will 'forget' how awful things have been lately, but you have only to read this thread back to yourself!
Lots of Love