Hi everyone, Im just wondering if any f you have any ideas on how to get me back to work? My maternity leave finishes in february, and ONLY for financial reasons I am considering going back to work. Aron and I are struggling on just his wage and Tax Credits, and we do use some of dads money to pay for his keep.
Dad has a new SW who is coming to meet us for the first time next week and I am unsure in which direction I would like dads care package to go. Can dad be looked after while I am not at home? If he has to pay for this help I will not go back to work, because I think he should have CC, and Ive spent the last few weeks asking opinions from the other people involved with his care- the DN, OT, Day Care Manager, Crossroads Manager etc. I have asked these people to write every detail about dads problems in his Care Plans and notes, so that we can build a body of evidence for a panel. As I have mentioned before the CPN is- not exactly reluctant, rather "slow"- to initiate the checklist assessment, and I am unsure myself on how to, or when to ask her to do it. Dads health is very unpredictable. he has more bad days than good days now, and needing alot more input. Soon, I can see, i will probably need some help, even if I dont return to work. The trouble is, the agency that our LA use is appalling and few of the carers provide care to a decent standard. If dad were to acheive funding from NHS will they use these carers? Would he still be able to attend day care? Who will look after him if not? He MUST remain at home, and at no point will I be persuaded to place him in a NH. (Unless i am very ill or dead!)
I have no idea what i should be asking for in terms of help in the future.
Incidentally, an absolutely FABULOUS Direct Payments officer is offering me support, by coming to the next meeting and simply allowing the SW to see that myself, Aron and the children should be being offered MORE help as more of our time is taken up with dad. It is a bad time to be asking for this as the Council are on a massive cut back across the board. Some SWs have resigned due to stress and depression! It is a very hard job for the ones who genuinely care.
I would like to present a clear and organised case, which i can do as far as Dads current condition is concerned, and the struggle we go through. But I just cant seem to get my head round how things will work next year and what help to ask for. i also do not want SS to regard me as not coping, because I am as far as caring for dad goes. Its just the financial side of things because we've lost my wage. If they see my asking for help as not coping, do they have the right to insist dad goes into care? It would definately NOT be in his best interest or his wishes.
Any ideas which anyone can offer on how to go about things would be very welcome.
Just so you get a clear idea of what help dad needs:
he cannot make his needs known as he has no communication (verbal non verbal) skills at all, other than agressive outbursts when he DOESNT want to do something
his mobility is very poor, even standing and transferring, and very unpredictable, days off feet completely, and then others able to walk short distance.
he is severely cognitively impaired
he has NO idesa of risks in any form
he gets frightened and agitated when left on his own for more than half an hour or so
he is very underweight and has no appetite, soft diet, and on liquid supplement
his moods are unpredictable, and he can be verbally and physically agressive
his has had quite a few falls
he has a break on the crease in his bottom which is dressed by DN
he is doubly incontinent, self evacuates faeces, and has no urge to pee or poo
We have lots of equipment from the OT to help, but there are days when two people need to help him. this is unpredicatable.
He can become very very withdrawn, almost semi-concious, or be very manic.
I just dont know where to start with how someone else would look after him at home.
Dad has a new SW who is coming to meet us for the first time next week and I am unsure in which direction I would like dads care package to go. Can dad be looked after while I am not at home? If he has to pay for this help I will not go back to work, because I think he should have CC, and Ive spent the last few weeks asking opinions from the other people involved with his care- the DN, OT, Day Care Manager, Crossroads Manager etc. I have asked these people to write every detail about dads problems in his Care Plans and notes, so that we can build a body of evidence for a panel. As I have mentioned before the CPN is- not exactly reluctant, rather "slow"- to initiate the checklist assessment, and I am unsure myself on how to, or when to ask her to do it. Dads health is very unpredictable. he has more bad days than good days now, and needing alot more input. Soon, I can see, i will probably need some help, even if I dont return to work. The trouble is, the agency that our LA use is appalling and few of the carers provide care to a decent standard. If dad were to acheive funding from NHS will they use these carers? Would he still be able to attend day care? Who will look after him if not? He MUST remain at home, and at no point will I be persuaded to place him in a NH. (Unless i am very ill or dead!)
I have no idea what i should be asking for in terms of help in the future.
Incidentally, an absolutely FABULOUS Direct Payments officer is offering me support, by coming to the next meeting and simply allowing the SW to see that myself, Aron and the children should be being offered MORE help as more of our time is taken up with dad. It is a bad time to be asking for this as the Council are on a massive cut back across the board. Some SWs have resigned due to stress and depression! It is a very hard job for the ones who genuinely care.
I would like to present a clear and organised case, which i can do as far as Dads current condition is concerned, and the struggle we go through. But I just cant seem to get my head round how things will work next year and what help to ask for. i also do not want SS to regard me as not coping, because I am as far as caring for dad goes. Its just the financial side of things because we've lost my wage. If they see my asking for help as not coping, do they have the right to insist dad goes into care? It would definately NOT be in his best interest or his wishes.
Any ideas which anyone can offer on how to go about things would be very welcome.
Just so you get a clear idea of what help dad needs:
he cannot make his needs known as he has no communication (verbal non verbal) skills at all, other than agressive outbursts when he DOESNT want to do something
his mobility is very poor, even standing and transferring, and very unpredictable, days off feet completely, and then others able to walk short distance.
he is severely cognitively impaired
he has NO idesa of risks in any form
he gets frightened and agitated when left on his own for more than half an hour or so
he is very underweight and has no appetite, soft diet, and on liquid supplement
his moods are unpredictable, and he can be verbally and physically agressive
his has had quite a few falls
he has a break on the crease in his bottom which is dressed by DN
he is doubly incontinent, self evacuates faeces, and has no urge to pee or poo
We have lots of equipment from the OT to help, but there are days when two people need to help him. this is unpredicatable.
He can become very very withdrawn, almost semi-concious, or be very manic.
I just dont know where to start with how someone else would look after him at home.
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