I just wanted to say hello to everyone
My mum has Alzheimers (the same type that Terry Pratchett has), she's been diagnosed for about 2 years now. I seem to have become/am becoming her carer. I am incredibly sad about this. I did join and post a little on TP a year ago but it was all too overwhelming for me, reading about day to day life with dementia so burried my head in the sand somewhat and didn't come back! I feel that the time has come where I need to be with people who understand... My head and heart is just such a mess.
I am currently moving my mum from her house to a rented house close by me so that I can care for her better. She will be moving about 30 minutes away from her current house. How progressed is she... I don't know, reading some of the posts on TP I can see that although I might think it's hard work now and how much of her I've lost, in reality I can see that she is actually relatively 'ok' now and we have a hell of a lot of awful things to come, which is massively overwhelming
Mum is in a relationship with a man who has a very tight hold over her, who I and friends and family believe to be abusing her and have done for a long time. However she 'loves him' so much and cannot break away from. Social Services basically pussy foot around this issue and perform the most incompetent capacity assesments on her from time to time and deem her to have capacity so let her carry on going to stay with him every weekend. She's convinced she's going to live with him, in reality he is wanting PoA and her money but she can't understand this... Oh it's all such a mess, there are so many layers to it I can't even begin to explain.
I'm moving her in under two weeks, she constantly forgets she's moving, sometimes says she doesn't want to, isn't moving because she's infact going to live with her partner... How do you move someone who can't remember she is moving. Everyone else, friends, family etc all want to know what I'm going to do with all the money that will be released from the sale of the house, which frankly isn't my primary concern right now. Social services have advised me strictly 'off the record' to get rid of it (spend it, not burn it!)...
Sorry I was just saying hello really, as I'll probably be around for a while and might need some help and guidence in the future So hello and hope everyone is well xx
My mum has Alzheimers (the same type that Terry Pratchett has), she's been diagnosed for about 2 years now. I seem to have become/am becoming her carer. I am incredibly sad about this. I did join and post a little on TP a year ago but it was all too overwhelming for me, reading about day to day life with dementia so burried my head in the sand somewhat and didn't come back! I feel that the time has come where I need to be with people who understand... My head and heart is just such a mess.
I am currently moving my mum from her house to a rented house close by me so that I can care for her better. She will be moving about 30 minutes away from her current house. How progressed is she... I don't know, reading some of the posts on TP I can see that although I might think it's hard work now and how much of her I've lost, in reality I can see that she is actually relatively 'ok' now and we have a hell of a lot of awful things to come, which is massively overwhelming
Mum is in a relationship with a man who has a very tight hold over her, who I and friends and family believe to be abusing her and have done for a long time. However she 'loves him' so much and cannot break away from. Social Services basically pussy foot around this issue and perform the most incompetent capacity assesments on her from time to time and deem her to have capacity so let her carry on going to stay with him every weekend. She's convinced she's going to live with him, in reality he is wanting PoA and her money but she can't understand this... Oh it's all such a mess, there are so many layers to it I can't even begin to explain.
I'm moving her in under two weeks, she constantly forgets she's moving, sometimes says she doesn't want to, isn't moving because she's infact going to live with her partner... How do you move someone who can't remember she is moving. Everyone else, friends, family etc all want to know what I'm going to do with all the money that will be released from the sale of the house, which frankly isn't my primary concern right now. Social services have advised me strictly 'off the record' to get rid of it (spend it, not burn it!)...
Sorry I was just saying hello really, as I'll probably be around for a while and might need some help and guidence in the future So hello and hope everyone is well xx