i am 58 and work 3 days a week as a teacher in a inner city support service.
My 83 y/o mum has recently (Aug 2009) been diagnosed with alzheimers disease and she is also blind, she is a widow and i am her main carer - she doesn't live with me, she is 50 miles away but i visit her 2/3 days a week i spend quite a bit of time on the phone talking to social workers health workers and carers, etc and i have to be prepared to attend meetings about and for my mum. I often get phonecalls while i am at work and i usually answer my phone unless i'm in a meeting and deal with whatever it is
Sadly, as we all know, my mum wont get better - she will get worse and more distressing and there will be more demands on my time.
i am starting to think that i might have to give up my job to give my mum the best i can give her in what time she has left and also because i find coping with a job and my mum very hard as it can sometimes be extremely distressing and emotionally draining.
Does anyone have any advice about what my options could be - vol redundancy/ early retirement, etc
Mum has a care plan with a carer going in everyday to administer her medic, get her up and dressed and fed; she lives in sheltered housing and has just got into a day centre for a day a week fingers crossed she'll like it. She not long started on reminyl - just going up to 16mg this week and, so far so good.
Thanks for any help or advice you can give me.
My 83 y/o mum has recently (Aug 2009) been diagnosed with alzheimers disease and she is also blind, she is a widow and i am her main carer - she doesn't live with me, she is 50 miles away but i visit her 2/3 days a week i spend quite a bit of time on the phone talking to social workers health workers and carers, etc and i have to be prepared to attend meetings about and for my mum. I often get phonecalls while i am at work and i usually answer my phone unless i'm in a meeting and deal with whatever it is
Sadly, as we all know, my mum wont get better - she will get worse and more distressing and there will be more demands on my time.
i am starting to think that i might have to give up my job to give my mum the best i can give her in what time she has left and also because i find coping with a job and my mum very hard as it can sometimes be extremely distressing and emotionally draining.
Does anyone have any advice about what my options could be - vol redundancy/ early retirement, etc
Mum has a care plan with a carer going in everyday to administer her medic, get her up and dressed and fed; she lives in sheltered housing and has just got into a day centre for a day a week fingers crossed she'll like it. She not long started on reminyl - just going up to 16mg this week and, so far so good.
Thanks for any help or advice you can give me.