I can imagine this has cropped up many times so I will try to be specific.
Before my mother in law got dementia she signed her small ex council home over to my husband, this was about 3/4 years ago, he had always paid a lot for upkeep etc of her home. (no proof - but why would you?)
When things got worse especially her paranoia around my husband we walked away, his health suffered as a result of her dementia and he almost lost his business (he is self employed).
Social Services have looked after her well for the last 18 months in her own home.
Now things have gone down hill, she has had to in to respite and in respite she has become violent but things really came to a head when she tried to strangle another resident last week, she has been moved now to an NHS unit to be assessed (she has attacked a doctor there too), the decision for her not to come home had already been made by Social Services.She is staying in this unit now to be assessed.
I think we will have difficulites getting an EMI home to take her.One I visited today they said no.
She has very little in savings and we are waiting for some one from Council Finances to call us, Social Services employ a company currently to deal with her bills and pension, so they know more than we do.
Can they make us sell the house to pay for her care?
Is there anything we can do to prevent this or minimise the impact?
Do we need a solicitor to advise us? Are there any recommendations?
Her house would probably only pay for 12 months care at the very most, she would be devasted if she thought her hard work had gone to the government.
Someone told me today that while she is with the NHS there is no charge but surely this all boils down to the fact that the NHS should pay end of story to look after her and if she needs one to one care that is what she should get, she is getting this currently on this unit.
I would love to hear from personal experience about how other have gone on.
Thank you.
Before my mother in law got dementia she signed her small ex council home over to my husband, this was about 3/4 years ago, he had always paid a lot for upkeep etc of her home. (no proof - but why would you?)
When things got worse especially her paranoia around my husband we walked away, his health suffered as a result of her dementia and he almost lost his business (he is self employed).
Social Services have looked after her well for the last 18 months in her own home.
Now things have gone down hill, she has had to in to respite and in respite she has become violent but things really came to a head when she tried to strangle another resident last week, she has been moved now to an NHS unit to be assessed (she has attacked a doctor there too), the decision for her not to come home had already been made by Social Services.She is staying in this unit now to be assessed.
I think we will have difficulites getting an EMI home to take her.One I visited today they said no.
She has very little in savings and we are waiting for some one from Council Finances to call us, Social Services employ a company currently to deal with her bills and pension, so they know more than we do.
Can they make us sell the house to pay for her care?
Is there anything we can do to prevent this or minimise the impact?
Do we need a solicitor to advise us? Are there any recommendations?
Her house would probably only pay for 12 months care at the very most, she would be devasted if she thought her hard work had gone to the government.
Someone told me today that while she is with the NHS there is no charge but surely this all boils down to the fact that the NHS should pay end of story to look after her and if she needs one to one care that is what she should get, she is getting this currently on this unit.
I would love to hear from personal experience about how other have gone on.
Thank you.