Hi....me again!
Dad and I are unhappy with the social worker that is in charge of his case.
Dad thinks she's deaf, or chooses not to listen and talks over the top of him.
Those of you that have read my 'many' recent posts will know that Mum has been in respite. Dad was reluctant to say the least. The SW and nurse (and me) forced him into it. One of the reasons he didn't want to was because he'd have to pay for it (again see earlier posts on Mum's debt). The SW said they would sort 'something' out. This morning he's received a bill for the respite (which unsurprisingly he can't pay). I'm furious as I know he made it very clear that Mum couldn't go into care as he simply can't afford it.
The SW also visited Mum in the home and said that she didn't seem too bad, in fact Mum's foot was tapping away to the music......Mum's feet and hands never stop moving, she constantly fidgets.....she'd be lucky if she even knew music was on! Perhaps the SW would be better to see her with poop in her hands/hair and the state her bottom was in when she got out of the home. Perhaps she'd like to try to get her onto a toilet.
I can't help think that while this stupid woman is in charge of Dad's case, he will continue to get no support at home. I can't help feel that she's implying Dad is a fraud (as an indication, he changed Mum 9 times yesterday, the entire bed twice during the night).
The phsyciatrist and Dad's doctor both want Mum in full time care but Dad is resisting, surely that should be enough for her to know that he desperatly needs help.
The incontinence people have given him the special toilet seat (again see earlier posts), it hasn't made any difference. The only other thing they will supply him with is the adult nappies (which he can't get on her as she resists, it's hit or a miss if he manages). I've bought him the matteress protectors and seat protectors.
I'm not sure how to tackle this, the woman continually points out to Dad how she's the same age as Mum (60) and how she can't believe that someone the same age as her is the way Mum is, it really irritates Dad.
Should I write to an MP/Councillor/Social Work (or all 3), highlighting all the issues that I'm worried about in terms of care/lack of support/the law is an ass etc, or is it only going to be a waste of time and Dad will still have the same duff Social Worker (the other stuff I want to highlight as it can't just be Dad having these problems).
Thanks......again!
Dad and I are unhappy with the social worker that is in charge of his case.
Dad thinks she's deaf, or chooses not to listen and talks over the top of him.
Those of you that have read my 'many' recent posts will know that Mum has been in respite. Dad was reluctant to say the least. The SW and nurse (and me) forced him into it. One of the reasons he didn't want to was because he'd have to pay for it (again see earlier posts on Mum's debt). The SW said they would sort 'something' out. This morning he's received a bill for the respite (which unsurprisingly he can't pay). I'm furious as I know he made it very clear that Mum couldn't go into care as he simply can't afford it.
The SW also visited Mum in the home and said that she didn't seem too bad, in fact Mum's foot was tapping away to the music......Mum's feet and hands never stop moving, she constantly fidgets.....she'd be lucky if she even knew music was on! Perhaps the SW would be better to see her with poop in her hands/hair and the state her bottom was in when she got out of the home. Perhaps she'd like to try to get her onto a toilet.
I can't help think that while this stupid woman is in charge of Dad's case, he will continue to get no support at home. I can't help feel that she's implying Dad is a fraud (as an indication, he changed Mum 9 times yesterday, the entire bed twice during the night).
The phsyciatrist and Dad's doctor both want Mum in full time care but Dad is resisting, surely that should be enough for her to know that he desperatly needs help.
The incontinence people have given him the special toilet seat (again see earlier posts), it hasn't made any difference. The only other thing they will supply him with is the adult nappies (which he can't get on her as she resists, it's hit or a miss if he manages). I've bought him the matteress protectors and seat protectors.
I'm not sure how to tackle this, the woman continually points out to Dad how she's the same age as Mum (60) and how she can't believe that someone the same age as her is the way Mum is, it really irritates Dad.
Should I write to an MP/Councillor/Social Work (or all 3), highlighting all the issues that I'm worried about in terms of care/lack of support/the law is an ass etc, or is it only going to be a waste of time and Dad will still have the same duff Social Worker (the other stuff I want to highlight as it can't just be Dad having these problems).
Thanks......again!