Hello Rosie
When my husband died suddenly 10 years ago we arranged a Humanist funeral. Neither of us were religious and we had heard about this as a possibility, and I am so glad we did. As others have said the Humanist came to the house and talked with us, and we decided how things would work. And yes, we laughed as well while talking about him!
The funeral director put us in touch with the Humanist, a lovely woman, and also, when my stepson said "What would be really good would be if Dad could have one of those recycled cardboard coffins" produced a brochure on that, so he (a great fan of Formula 1 motor racing) was cremated in a British Racing Green recycled cardboard coffin!
Digressing slightly here ... Don had been a jazz musician in his youth, so one of his friends provided tapes of three of the recordings he made with his first band, and he played himself in, and out!
The Humanist really just organised events, she made a simple introduction and we did everything else - I spoke (not sure how I did it now, but I did!), as did one of his nephews, and one of his friends.
I told everyone to come dressed in clothes he would have liked to see them wearing - and they did - not a single trace of black! It has left me with good memories that are still as clear today as they were then.
Tomorrow I'm going to the funeral of the husband of a friend who lost his battle with cancer, and in the note she sent me about the arrangements she put "Non religious like a certain jazz musician's funeral I attended some years ago!" Have to admit to a few sniffles when I read that.
Oh yes, and I have told my children - and put in my will - that I am going to have a Humanist funeral when my time comes - and Don and his band are going to play me in, and out, with the same tracks we used for him!
My thoughts will be with you on Monday, Pam