Well, I’m nearly there ... done the ‘first’ Christmas, wedding anniversary, her birthday, my birthday etc etc and now for the biggy ..... does this hit everyone the hardest? I am barely functioning already .... not quite under the duvet ... but might as well be .... Not sure that I am even anxious that once ‘the anniversary’ is over it’s about time I really got my act together again (or ‘Pull yer socks up’ as mum would have said) ... Felt I had reached some plateau – even had a few laughs recently about ‘Remember when she used to .....’ now am just going back down the slippery slope ....
Have wondered whether to plan something for the day .... cemetery visits have never really been my style (they weren’t mum’s either) .... Thought it would be nice to call into the Nursing Home – never have summoned up the courage to go back yet ... nearly went into the hospice around that anniversary to say some personal ‘thank yous’ for her care there and found myself turning round on the car park and chickening out ...... Can’t begin to think of doing anything ‘celebratory’ ... will be doing the ‘Memory Walk’ on the 20th which appropriately for me falls between the anniversary of mum’s death and her funeral ..... and feel quite good about that ... but what else to do to get through the next few days/week .......and especially the day itself?
Sorry, a rather sorry-for-herself, Karen
Have wondered whether to plan something for the day .... cemetery visits have never really been my style (they weren’t mum’s either) .... Thought it would be nice to call into the Nursing Home – never have summoned up the courage to go back yet ... nearly went into the hospice around that anniversary to say some personal ‘thank yous’ for her care there and found myself turning round on the car park and chickening out ...... Can’t begin to think of doing anything ‘celebratory’ ... will be doing the ‘Memory Walk’ on the 20th which appropriately for me falls between the anniversary of mum’s death and her funeral ..... and feel quite good about that ... but what else to do to get through the next few days/week .......and especially the day itself?
Sorry, a rather sorry-for-herself, Karen