The home was good. It looked good, it smelt good there was hustle and bustle, lots of small sitting rooms, a noisy room, a quiet room, a fine skills activity room, a motor skills activity room, a treatment room, a dining room and a large enclosed garden .
All the pointers were there.
And it is full.
Because it is oversubscribed, there is little scope for respite care rooms but if one becomes available in the next few weeks the manager will contact me.
And that`s about it.
We visited two more homes just to see. One recently fully refurbished was not registered for dementia but was applying.
The other did have people with Alzheimers but were not happy about Dhiren`s wandering. It was sea facing and a short walk from the cliff top.
We talked a lot driving between homes. I was worried about the fall this morning and any possible link to the medication. Terry was also worried but said it was impossible to define whether it was due to medication, a downturn or a combination of both.
His biggest worry, shared by the consultant, was Dhiren`s constant wandering. If it continues to increase, it might come to the point where Dhiren was at risk to himself and also to others. And that might mean a Section.
When I arrived home both Dhiren`s face and the carer`s face told me something had happened..
The carer said she has promised Dhiren not to tell me and she didn`t want to break her promise to him so she had logged it for me to read.
Mr G became a bit unsettled at 12.00. He kept coming in and out of lounge, bedroom and spare bedroom..................I told him Sylvia would be back in an hour.
He came into the kitchen and told me he was concerned about his finances and he needed a job. I asked him to sit down and have a chat if it would help and he did. I made him a cup of tea and we chatted for about 20 minutes.
He mentioned how life was very difficult and how he feels so down all the time but he hasn`t got the guts to end his life. He feels he has nothing to show for all the hard work he has done over the years. I encouraged him in that he has been a very successful businessman and that he now has this lovely bungalow to show for it. He was surprised to hear it was all his and Sylvia`s. He mentioned a number of times how things would be better if he could go home.
We spoke about Sylvia, how good she is in taking care of him, but he feels he can`t ask her for anything as it would burden her too much.
I said she would want to know how he was feeling because , as his wife, she would want to help him and do anything she could to make him feel better. He was surprised to hear she was his wife.
He has asked me not to say anything to her.
