Hello All -
I have never posted before but only viewed now and then when worried about my father.
My father, who is 81, was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia approx. two years ago. He has been having memory problems since at least 2003. My mother, who is 81 also, is his carer and it is becoming slowly more difficult for her to manage as he has been having falls now and then and is becoming more and more unsteady on his feet. Last week he got on his bike whilst my mother was on the phone. (We have been trying to discourage him from cycling as he is really too unsteady but he forgets that he has fallen off before and thinks we are making a fuss and trying to curtail what little freedom he has left since having his licence taken away). He fell off the bike in the drive and then again this morning he had a fall in the garden when trying to mow the lawn. He seems to be ok, apart from a couple of cuts and scrapes and some bruising but I was wondering whether anyone has had similar experiences. Should we insist on taking the bike away? My husband suggested taking off a wheel and saying that we'd take it to be mended and then just tell him it's still at the menders if he asks. My mother is worried that he will get aggressive if she just gives the bike away or hides it in neighbours garage. (Dad was a great sportsman in his early years and has only given up golf in last five).
Also Dad seems to have had diarrhoea several times lately (over last month). Is this another symptom? I know that incontinence is something that may happen further down the line.
Guess I just needed to share and hoping for some words of advice. Not sure how long to expect Dad to last for - I find myself wondering whether it wouldn't be better for all if he had a heart attack and it was over quickly. It's something I feel he would agree with were he able to comprehend the situation. Hope you're not thinking that I'm unloving of him - he was the most fun Dad you can imagine and very intelligent. He's still the same in lots of ways but it's disheartening to think of what is ahead for us all.
I know that lots of you are in much much worse places than this and I hope you don't think I am not aware of that.
I have never posted before but only viewed now and then when worried about my father.
My father, who is 81, was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia approx. two years ago. He has been having memory problems since at least 2003. My mother, who is 81 also, is his carer and it is becoming slowly more difficult for her to manage as he has been having falls now and then and is becoming more and more unsteady on his feet. Last week he got on his bike whilst my mother was on the phone. (We have been trying to discourage him from cycling as he is really too unsteady but he forgets that he has fallen off before and thinks we are making a fuss and trying to curtail what little freedom he has left since having his licence taken away). He fell off the bike in the drive and then again this morning he had a fall in the garden when trying to mow the lawn. He seems to be ok, apart from a couple of cuts and scrapes and some bruising but I was wondering whether anyone has had similar experiences. Should we insist on taking the bike away? My husband suggested taking off a wheel and saying that we'd take it to be mended and then just tell him it's still at the menders if he asks. My mother is worried that he will get aggressive if she just gives the bike away or hides it in neighbours garage. (Dad was a great sportsman in his early years and has only given up golf in last five).
Also Dad seems to have had diarrhoea several times lately (over last month). Is this another symptom? I know that incontinence is something that may happen further down the line.
Guess I just needed to share and hoping for some words of advice. Not sure how long to expect Dad to last for - I find myself wondering whether it wouldn't be better for all if he had a heart attack and it was over quickly. It's something I feel he would agree with were he able to comprehend the situation. Hope you're not thinking that I'm unloving of him - he was the most fun Dad you can imagine and very intelligent. He's still the same in lots of ways but it's disheartening to think of what is ahead for us all.
I know that lots of you are in much much worse places than this and I hope you don't think I am not aware of that.