Once again Theresa seems to be on a downward slope, several incident have happened this week. Firstly on Wednesday I heard her getting up and when I came down the stairs I had to double take as Theresa was all dressed up including wearing a hat, on asking her where she was going, she replied that she was going to her daughter's wedding,(her daughter actually got married 25years ago. At first I wasn't sure how to handle this but decided the best way was to just tell her that she would probably better going back upstairs and to put her normal clothes on as there was no wedding today. This she did without any questions. After giving her her breakfast and tablets she settled down for a snooze. Around about 11am, I went to see if she wanted a cuppa tea and she was sitting with her coat and hat on and said she was waiting for her friend to come and take her for dinner, I explained that it was only wednesday and she wouldn't be going for dinner until sunday. The rest of the day pasted without much else happening. On thursday morning nothing much happened but we did get a letter in the post from the mental health team who said that they would be coming out to do an assessment, it explained that the doctor had been in touch with them, Theresa's reply was,"I am not having anybody comming here as there is nothing wrong with me and I haven't seen a doctor in years". About an hour after this she came and said to me "How long have you lot been plotting to put me in a home, well I am not going". Once again tried to explain that nobody was going to put her in a home. Friday started off quite good until we received a phone call about 11.30 from her friend to say that it was another friends birthday and they were invited down to the home where she is for a tea party and that she would be picked up at 1.40. Well from the moment that we put down the phone Theresa put her coat on and went to the front door, on asking her what she was doing she said that she was waiting for Jean, I told her that it was too early and would tell her when it was time. I then spent the next 2 hours bringing Theresa in the house every time she went out the door. About 40 minutes before she was due to go my daughter came round and she also brought her back in and she told Theresa that she still had40minutes to wait and Theresa said that her watch said it was 2.30, Jo explained that her watch was wrong and put it right for her. We have started to notice that Theresa keeps altering the clocks and her watch to the time that she thinks it is. Anyway she went off for her party and I had a little time to myself. When Raymond came home from work I explained to him what had happened today and as usual he changed the subject. Later he went out with his mate and I was once again left looking after his mother. The evening was quit eventful what with the phoning keep ringing and there being nobody there according to Theresa, although I never heard the phone ring once and the wardens alarm keep talking to her, which it wasn't. I was in the dinning room doing the ironing, when she came in and said to me" thank you Mary for doing the washing an ironing for me", who Mary is I have no idea. At 10.30pm I told Theresa that she might as well go to bed as Ray had a key and I didn't know what time he would be in and that I was going to bed myself. We then spend the next hour going up and down stairs because she kept going to the front door to see if he was coming, and staring through the blinds in her bedroom. Eventually she seemed to settle, then ray came in and she was up again, he asked her why she wasn't in bed and to go back and she asked him where his dad was, we once again had to explain that he had died 5years ago. Tried to talk to Ray about his mum and he tried to change the subject, eventually did get something out of him and he said that he can't deal with it. WE moved in here as he didn't want his mum to go in a home but I am the one dealing with it all, with very little help from him. And now at this stupid o'clock in the morning I am up as Theresa as been up and down most of the night opening the front door as she said that someone keeps knocking at the door, nobody there of course. Its not that I mind looking after heresa but if anybody knows of any way that I can get Ray to accept what is happening to his mother and help a bit more I would very much appreiciate it, his sister helps when she can and is always there to talk to me if I need it but we both cant get Ray to accept what is happening