hi,
i'm on here to try and get some help and advice... my gran (who is 84) was taken into hospital on Christmas Eve 08 with what turned out to be constipation. Up until this point she was a very fit lady who lived by herself and did not seem to be showing signs of dementia.
While she was in hospital we were told that she was suffering from delirium and that they were going to keep her in. She ended up being in hospital for a number of months and (in the opinion of myself and my family) she given very very poor care. As a result she became very weak, lost the ability to walk and picked up numerous infections including c diff. We put in numerous complaints about her care but never seemed to get anywhere. We were then told that she has dementia.
Eventually she was moved into a care home, which is where she currently is. Unfortunately this had made the situation worse and we are extremely concerned about the care she is currently receiving. There has been a catalogue of errors made by the home including losing medical records and samples, fogetting to take her for her meals, forgetting to give her her medication etc. She has been subject to physical abuse by other residents and has had men making inapproriate sexual comments to her and the best the home are doing is putting her in her bed in her room all day so that she is safe from other people. As a result my granny is terrified and cries constantly.
My gran is very close to my mum and my mum has been her carer for years. My mum is on the verge of having a breakdown due to the problems at the carehome. We have tried having numerous meetings with the home to address the problems but it does not seem to be improving. We have also tried going via social work and a doctor but again we are making no progress.
Anyway, I am on here to find out if my mum can take my gran out of the home and bring her to her own house to become her official carer? My mum is well aware of how much work this will be but we cannot cope with my gran being in residential care anymore and we just don't know what else to do. My mum has sisters who are willing to help with the care plus myself and my brother. Can we legally demand that she lives with my mum?
any advice or opinions would be greatly appreciated, we are going out of our minds with worry.
thanks for reading this
Suzanne
i'm on here to try and get some help and advice... my gran (who is 84) was taken into hospital on Christmas Eve 08 with what turned out to be constipation. Up until this point she was a very fit lady who lived by herself and did not seem to be showing signs of dementia.
While she was in hospital we were told that she was suffering from delirium and that they were going to keep her in. She ended up being in hospital for a number of months and (in the opinion of myself and my family) she given very very poor care. As a result she became very weak, lost the ability to walk and picked up numerous infections including c diff. We put in numerous complaints about her care but never seemed to get anywhere. We were then told that she has dementia.
Eventually she was moved into a care home, which is where she currently is. Unfortunately this had made the situation worse and we are extremely concerned about the care she is currently receiving. There has been a catalogue of errors made by the home including losing medical records and samples, fogetting to take her for her meals, forgetting to give her her medication etc. She has been subject to physical abuse by other residents and has had men making inapproriate sexual comments to her and the best the home are doing is putting her in her bed in her room all day so that she is safe from other people. As a result my granny is terrified and cries constantly.
My gran is very close to my mum and my mum has been her carer for years. My mum is on the verge of having a breakdown due to the problems at the carehome. We have tried having numerous meetings with the home to address the problems but it does not seem to be improving. We have also tried going via social work and a doctor but again we are making no progress.
Anyway, I am on here to find out if my mum can take my gran out of the home and bring her to her own house to become her official carer? My mum is well aware of how much work this will be but we cannot cope with my gran being in residential care anymore and we just don't know what else to do. My mum has sisters who are willing to help with the care plus myself and my brother. Can we legally demand that she lives with my mum?
any advice or opinions would be greatly appreciated, we are going out of our minds with worry.
thanks for reading this
Suzanne