Hello
I have reached the end of my time as a full time carer for my husband who has Alzheimer's. I have managed for the last 5 years but cannot continue because it will affect my mental health.
My husband's children (particularly one of his daughters) from his previous marriage (all adults) have been critical of me for at least the past 18 months. This particular daughter lives some 80 miles away. She has insinuated some months ago to his carer that she wants him to live with her and to claim his benefits.
The consultant has advised that because she is concerned that it would not be in my husband's "best interests" to be placed in a care home local to me and that she feared he would end up in a closed ward in the local mental hospital, has said that she would need to consult the "wider family" to ask if his daughter would have him. This meeting with his son and daughter has now taken place and the have until this coming Monday to decide whether or not they will take him.
We are talking about my husband here. If this happens, I will be in a position whereby I will not be able to see my husband on anything resembling a regular basis. In fact, I think they would make it very difficult for me to see him.
I cannot believe that the Mental Health Act allows such a situation to continue and will probably result in him being forcibly taken from me against my will.
Please help. What can I do?
I have reached the end of my time as a full time carer for my husband who has Alzheimer's. I have managed for the last 5 years but cannot continue because it will affect my mental health.
My husband's children (particularly one of his daughters) from his previous marriage (all adults) have been critical of me for at least the past 18 months. This particular daughter lives some 80 miles away. She has insinuated some months ago to his carer that she wants him to live with her and to claim his benefits.
The consultant has advised that because she is concerned that it would not be in my husband's "best interests" to be placed in a care home local to me and that she feared he would end up in a closed ward in the local mental hospital, has said that she would need to consult the "wider family" to ask if his daughter would have him. This meeting with his son and daughter has now taken place and the have until this coming Monday to decide whether or not they will take him.
We are talking about my husband here. If this happens, I will be in a position whereby I will not be able to see my husband on anything resembling a regular basis. In fact, I think they would make it very difficult for me to see him.
I cannot believe that the Mental Health Act allows such a situation to continue and will probably result in him being forcibly taken from me against my will.
Please help. What can I do?