Yesterday I visited my mum in her lovely care home and noticed that her diamond and sapphire engagement ring was missing. I searched everywhere and told the home manager who pulled out a box of about 30 or so rings, watches, brooches etc that residents had lost. Mum's ring was not among them and it really upsets me that it is gone. I asked mum if she had taken it off and she said ' no, what does it look like anyway?' .Then, as i was trying to subtley discuss with the carer what to do, i stood by mum and stroked her shoulder. Then SUDDENLY, out of the blue she went ballistic about the physical contact and started to hit out yelling ' don't do that ! stop! I don't like that !!'. I was totally upset - she has never done this before - the carers just said 'don't worry - she does this to everyone'. I can't get it out of my head - for me she is totally gone now - there is nothing of my mother left - just an unrecognizable bad tempered old lady i can't even touch. Other people must have been though this - how do you rationalize it ? Also don't know what to do re lost engagement ring - advice please.
Thanks,
Sarah
Thanks,
Sarah