Hi everyone
Haven't posted for a few weeks. I really would appreciate your thoughts on what you would do or suggestions on how to cope.
Mom has as you know been diagnosed with AD. She is in a care home and as mentioned before we haven't told her. She is still crying constantly. In fact the crying has got worse. As before we are told quite truthfully I think that mom is fine when we are not there. When we visit mom cries almost constantly and says: When am I coming home. Promise me that I am not in here for good etc. Some people think that we should tell her, others not. I just don't know. Do you know if this constant crying is part of AD. I haven't yet spoken to anyone either on this wonderful site or at meetings who have this dilemma. Mom has been on a new anti depressant but it doesn't seem to be making any difference. Her psychiatric team don't think she is depressed because she seems to be fine as long as we don't visit. We are now wondering if we should visit though this thought seems unbearable to us.
Yesterday it was the Christmas Meal for the three care homes that are owned by the people that mom's home is under. We were invited along and were happy to go thinking that for once we would have a happy few hours with mom. How wrong can we be. Mom cried as soon as she saw us and didn't stop for much time at all. All the other residents were having a good time, singing along to the entertainment and dancing. Mom just cried. In the end we decided to leave so that maybe mom would have a good time because we weren't there. How sad is that. I left in tears, partly frustration and partly sadness at the thought that we seem to upset mom when all we want to do is spend time with her. Please advise me.
I am planning to have mom at my house for Christmas but I don't know what to do. My husband thinks it is a mistake but I find it hard to think she won't be with her family at Christmas but would she be happier at the home.
I am hoping to meet up with mom's psychiatrists soon, I haven't met the new team yet but I would really appreciate your advise. It would also have been my dad's birthday yesterday and I just wanted him back so much.
Sorry to have rambled on but it helps to write things down.
Thanks. Take care Jacky
Haven't posted for a few weeks. I really would appreciate your thoughts on what you would do or suggestions on how to cope.
Mom has as you know been diagnosed with AD. She is in a care home and as mentioned before we haven't told her. She is still crying constantly. In fact the crying has got worse. As before we are told quite truthfully I think that mom is fine when we are not there. When we visit mom cries almost constantly and says: When am I coming home. Promise me that I am not in here for good etc. Some people think that we should tell her, others not. I just don't know. Do you know if this constant crying is part of AD. I haven't yet spoken to anyone either on this wonderful site or at meetings who have this dilemma. Mom has been on a new anti depressant but it doesn't seem to be making any difference. Her psychiatric team don't think she is depressed because she seems to be fine as long as we don't visit. We are now wondering if we should visit though this thought seems unbearable to us.
Yesterday it was the Christmas Meal for the three care homes that are owned by the people that mom's home is under. We were invited along and were happy to go thinking that for once we would have a happy few hours with mom. How wrong can we be. Mom cried as soon as she saw us and didn't stop for much time at all. All the other residents were having a good time, singing along to the entertainment and dancing. Mom just cried. In the end we decided to leave so that maybe mom would have a good time because we weren't there. How sad is that. I left in tears, partly frustration and partly sadness at the thought that we seem to upset mom when all we want to do is spend time with her. Please advise me.
I am planning to have mom at my house for Christmas but I don't know what to do. My husband thinks it is a mistake but I find it hard to think she won't be with her family at Christmas but would she be happier at the home.
I am hoping to meet up with mom's psychiatrists soon, I haven't met the new team yet but I would really appreciate your advise. It would also have been my dad's birthday yesterday and I just wanted him back so much.
Sorry to have rambled on but it helps to write things down.
Thanks. Take care Jacky