Hello TP's
Some of you may recall my mother in law was in a fast downward spiral and was admitted to an assessment unit about ten days ago. Since then she has suffered repeated falls with extensive bruising, culminating in a broken hip yesterday.
It is quite shocking when I think of it how events have changed so fast. I think we are looking at the end, she has another UTI and is now seeing all her favourite dead people. It was an eyeopener for me to spend last night at the hospital with her, all night long the constant movement: I have such a great repect for father-in-law, I really don't know how he has managed for so long. We wait and see for a few more days whether surgical intervention is required. We hope not, I don't think she will survive it and they are reluctant to intervene given her condition and general health. I know it is stupid for me to fret over, but she won't wear her dentures anymore which makes her look like someone else. I am struggling to see the real person behind this strange shrunken mask.
I don't think that we talk about death enough in our culture - I would like to ask a few questions relating to death from Alzheimers if nobody objects? I know that some may find it taboo, but bear with me please.
What happens next? When food and drink are limited (from patient choice) and pain medication is given, does it take long? She is now off the drip. She is already skin and bones with not an ounce of fat on her. I suppose that being immobile in bed, the risk of pneumonia will set in? Do hospital doctors tell the truth or wrap it up in kind words and false hope? Or does a six stone woman with a broken hip and advanced dementia get "better" and return to the asessment unit?
I would wish her a good death; a peaceful end from the constant hallucinations, delusions and tiresome movements. Is this too much to ask? I think not. How do we ensure it? I know not how.
If anyone is willing to share what I understand could be painful memories then I would be grateful. I apologise if I have asked the unaswerable.
nbfb
Some of you may recall my mother in law was in a fast downward spiral and was admitted to an assessment unit about ten days ago. Since then she has suffered repeated falls with extensive bruising, culminating in a broken hip yesterday.
It is quite shocking when I think of it how events have changed so fast. I think we are looking at the end, she has another UTI and is now seeing all her favourite dead people. It was an eyeopener for me to spend last night at the hospital with her, all night long the constant movement: I have such a great repect for father-in-law, I really don't know how he has managed for so long. We wait and see for a few more days whether surgical intervention is required. We hope not, I don't think she will survive it and they are reluctant to intervene given her condition and general health. I know it is stupid for me to fret over, but she won't wear her dentures anymore which makes her look like someone else. I am struggling to see the real person behind this strange shrunken mask.
I don't think that we talk about death enough in our culture - I would like to ask a few questions relating to death from Alzheimers if nobody objects? I know that some may find it taboo, but bear with me please.
What happens next? When food and drink are limited (from patient choice) and pain medication is given, does it take long? She is now off the drip. She is already skin and bones with not an ounce of fat on her. I suppose that being immobile in bed, the risk of pneumonia will set in? Do hospital doctors tell the truth or wrap it up in kind words and false hope? Or does a six stone woman with a broken hip and advanced dementia get "better" and return to the asessment unit?
I would wish her a good death; a peaceful end from the constant hallucinations, delusions and tiresome movements. Is this too much to ask? I think not. How do we ensure it? I know not how.
If anyone is willing to share what I understand could be painful memories then I would be grateful. I apologise if I have asked the unaswerable.
nbfb