I dont no what to do, mum cames to me because she couldn't look after herself.
She has a bank book and a bank card, she hadn't a clue how much was in either A/C, she was constantly losing both the card and the book, insisting she had put them here and now they've gone,
this went on for months, every day another search, in the end I said " mum let me look after them for you," then when you cant remember where they are I will be able to show you " look there here in this zipper on the side of my bag " then you wont have to worry about losing them any more, " yes ok " she said.
I thought thats the end of searches looking for bank stuff.
The last couple of weeks mum has continually asking why " THAT LYNN HAS GOT MY BANK THINGS " I cant get through to her that, that Lynn is me, and I'm looking after them for you so you dont loose them.
Frid I take mum to have her hair done, she said she didn't have any money, I showed her she had over £10 and her hair was £6.50
so she had plenty.
I picked her up and she went on and on while we were driving to town how she had no money.
She insisted on going to the theater to ask why the Connie Fisher
show was canceled, I might as well have my money back she said ( I bought the tickets, I always buy all the tickets ) so I got the money back and gave it to her, I couldn't be bothered arguing the point.
Then I took her out for lunch as I do every Frid, we went to this nice cafe within a rather nice furniture store.
I put mum in the stores wheelchair to have a look around, all the time mum telling me about "This Lynn who insists in having her bank book and card " I said she's only looking after them for you so you dont lose them, she said " I'll look after them she says, you'll lose them she says, I feel like telling her to SOD OFF "
By this time I'd well had enough, we went back to the car, straight to the bank, I gave her the b....y bank book and card,
It was finally mums turn, she stood at the counter and said" which one did you say I have to give her," I told her the card, then she said " how much have I to get " The teller was looking at me as if I was a rogue builder, I said, mum just draw out what you need, then she said " did you say £100. I nearly died,
the teller looked again then said to mum, are you sure you want so much dear, if mum didn't look at me again, I said it doesn't matter to me how much she gets its her money just give her whatever she wants.
Everyone was looking at us, I walked mum to a chair and sat her down, showed her how much money she had got and put it in her purse, then I put the card in with the book and told her to put it in her own bag. When we got back to the car I told her I didn't want to know next time she lost them, I told her she made me feel like I was trying to rob her, she said dont be silly,
I said, oh so that makes it alright then.
I wouldn't mind, but mum has lived with me since Oct last, I have never asked or been offered a penny towards anything,
Twice at Tesco check out she threw £ 30 at me towards the shopping, twice in 6 months, all this time mums bank balance has just got bigger,
It was big to start with and its doing my head in, she is obsessed with it, wont spend it, I had hell on to get her to buy herself some new clothes, nothing spectacular just a couple of tops and cardigans from Bon Marsh and a couple of prs of trousers from the market.
I wish dad had been pennyless when he died.
Sorry Lynn
She has a bank book and a bank card, she hadn't a clue how much was in either A/C, she was constantly losing both the card and the book, insisting she had put them here and now they've gone,
this went on for months, every day another search, in the end I said " mum let me look after them for you," then when you cant remember where they are I will be able to show you " look there here in this zipper on the side of my bag " then you wont have to worry about losing them any more, " yes ok " she said.
I thought thats the end of searches looking for bank stuff.
The last couple of weeks mum has continually asking why " THAT LYNN HAS GOT MY BANK THINGS " I cant get through to her that, that Lynn is me, and I'm looking after them for you so you dont loose them.
Frid I take mum to have her hair done, she said she didn't have any money, I showed her she had over £10 and her hair was £6.50
so she had plenty.
I picked her up and she went on and on while we were driving to town how she had no money.
She insisted on going to the theater to ask why the Connie Fisher
show was canceled, I might as well have my money back she said ( I bought the tickets, I always buy all the tickets ) so I got the money back and gave it to her, I couldn't be bothered arguing the point.
Then I took her out for lunch as I do every Frid, we went to this nice cafe within a rather nice furniture store.
I put mum in the stores wheelchair to have a look around, all the time mum telling me about "This Lynn who insists in having her bank book and card " I said she's only looking after them for you so you dont lose them, she said " I'll look after them she says, you'll lose them she says, I feel like telling her to SOD OFF "
By this time I'd well had enough, we went back to the car, straight to the bank, I gave her the b....y bank book and card,
It was finally mums turn, she stood at the counter and said" which one did you say I have to give her," I told her the card, then she said " how much have I to get " The teller was looking at me as if I was a rogue builder, I said, mum just draw out what you need, then she said " did you say £100. I nearly died,
the teller looked again then said to mum, are you sure you want so much dear, if mum didn't look at me again, I said it doesn't matter to me how much she gets its her money just give her whatever she wants.
Everyone was looking at us, I walked mum to a chair and sat her down, showed her how much money she had got and put it in her purse, then I put the card in with the book and told her to put it in her own bag. When we got back to the car I told her I didn't want to know next time she lost them, I told her she made me feel like I was trying to rob her, she said dont be silly,
I said, oh so that makes it alright then.
I wouldn't mind, but mum has lived with me since Oct last, I have never asked or been offered a penny towards anything,
Twice at Tesco check out she threw £ 30 at me towards the shopping, twice in 6 months, all this time mums bank balance has just got bigger,
It was big to start with and its doing my head in, she is obsessed with it, wont spend it, I had hell on to get her to buy herself some new clothes, nothing spectacular just a couple of tops and cardigans from Bon Marsh and a couple of prs of trousers from the market.
I wish dad had been pennyless when he died.
Sorry Lynn