Please could you help me with some advice. My dad has vascular dementia, i am not too sure how bad he has it because some of his behaviour doesn't seem to fit the illness. He controls my mum so much he will not let her go anywhere without him, she is not allowed to see friends, family, grandchildren without him and if we call up he either will not let us talk to her or tells her to get off the phone. She can't wear what she likes he even dictates that.she is like a prisoner within her house and life, mum is a intelligent, wonderful caring person who seems to think that this is want she has been dealt in life and has to live with it. She has given up in the past year, her job, her one day every two weeks with her sister, her once a month ladies luncheon. I keep telling her that she has to have time out and to get help or except help from her children but she doesn't. She cries alot and I know they row alot but how can I help her?