Hello
My mum sent me a photo yesterday teatime of my dad and it made me cry. He's currently sectioned at a psychiatric hospital and of late hasn't been doing well. He's very tired, hardly able to open his eyes when my Mum visits though he knows she's there. And on Saturday my mum and auntie visited and they said he was like a new person. he recognised my Aunt even though he hasn't seen her since December and was talking of Australia. They went on holiday there several years ago.
I'm getting married a week on Sunday and want my dad there. I know he can't give me away (my brother's doing the honours) but even if it was just for the ceremony and photos (not the meal) the idea of not having photos of my dad next to me in my wedding dress is crucifying me and though I know that I and the nearest wedding guests can get dressed up and have the photos at a later date, it won't be the same.
This is my dad's right to be there and if he can't (we have asked the hospital and they said it depends if he has a good day and if it's in his best interests) how do I get through the day? My fiance is planning a toast to both our dads who won't be there, which is important to both of us but I soemtimes really struggle with the thought of my dad not being there. We arranged the wedding as soon as we could due to my dad's illness.
It's so unfair and my poor mum. it's killing me hearing the sadness in her voice. Sorry, having a rant and now tearful at the laptop.
joanne
My mum sent me a photo yesterday teatime of my dad and it made me cry. He's currently sectioned at a psychiatric hospital and of late hasn't been doing well. He's very tired, hardly able to open his eyes when my Mum visits though he knows she's there. And on Saturday my mum and auntie visited and they said he was like a new person. he recognised my Aunt even though he hasn't seen her since December and was talking of Australia. They went on holiday there several years ago.
I'm getting married a week on Sunday and want my dad there. I know he can't give me away (my brother's doing the honours) but even if it was just for the ceremony and photos (not the meal) the idea of not having photos of my dad next to me in my wedding dress is crucifying me and though I know that I and the nearest wedding guests can get dressed up and have the photos at a later date, it won't be the same.
This is my dad's right to be there and if he can't (we have asked the hospital and they said it depends if he has a good day and if it's in his best interests) how do I get through the day? My fiance is planning a toast to both our dads who won't be there, which is important to both of us but I soemtimes really struggle with the thought of my dad not being there. We arranged the wedding as soon as we could due to my dad's illness.
It's so unfair and my poor mum. it's killing me hearing the sadness in her voice. Sorry, having a rant and now tearful at the laptop.
joanne