My mum is 80 and has Alzheimer's, somewhere between stages 5 and 6 on the 7 stage scale. She has lived in a care home since last May, just over 9 months.
While she was living at home, she would make many phone calls a day to a small number of people (myself, my sister, my wife at work, my sister's husband at work and a handful of friends). We're talking lots of phone calls a day, up to 20 to each person. The calls would start at 6.30am and go on until late evening. We'd all just stop answering the phone after the first couple, but she's keep on ringing, over and over again. Even after a 24 hour a day carer moved in, the calls would keep coming. The calls were always very desperate in tone. She's always been a very 'needy' person and the AD has exacerbated this tenfold.
Now she is in a care home, the quantity of the calls has reduced, but only marginally. She's occupied during most of the day but come 4pm, they start. She doesn't have a phone in her room, but there is one in the nurse's office next to hers. Sometimes she goes into the room of other residents and uses theirs, either with or without their permission. She says: "I just wanted to hear a friendly voice" or "I have a headache" or "When are you coming to get me?" during her more lucid calls. Sometimes she's much more confused and disorientated.
She hasn't really settled into the home in the nine months she's been there. The other residents seem alot older than her, less mobile and spend their time asleep in the day room. She is totally physically fit and able. She's quite a contradiction to say the least. She's haughty, snobbish and refuses to make friends, yet complains of being lonely. She is her own worst enemy really. I had rather hoped that her moving into the home would have allowed her to be more sociable and given her the daily contact with people that she complained of not getting when she was living at home. But this hasn't happened. At least we now know she is safe and and looked after but she's not at all happy and this still manifests itself through incessant phone use.
I was wondering if anyone else had experience of dealing with high volumes of phone calls from a parent with Alzheimer's especially those who are in a care home, and how you dealt with it.
While she was living at home, she would make many phone calls a day to a small number of people (myself, my sister, my wife at work, my sister's husband at work and a handful of friends). We're talking lots of phone calls a day, up to 20 to each person. The calls would start at 6.30am and go on until late evening. We'd all just stop answering the phone after the first couple, but she's keep on ringing, over and over again. Even after a 24 hour a day carer moved in, the calls would keep coming. The calls were always very desperate in tone. She's always been a very 'needy' person and the AD has exacerbated this tenfold.
Now she is in a care home, the quantity of the calls has reduced, but only marginally. She's occupied during most of the day but come 4pm, they start. She doesn't have a phone in her room, but there is one in the nurse's office next to hers. Sometimes she goes into the room of other residents and uses theirs, either with or without their permission. She says: "I just wanted to hear a friendly voice" or "I have a headache" or "When are you coming to get me?" during her more lucid calls. Sometimes she's much more confused and disorientated.
She hasn't really settled into the home in the nine months she's been there. The other residents seem alot older than her, less mobile and spend their time asleep in the day room. She is totally physically fit and able. She's quite a contradiction to say the least. She's haughty, snobbish and refuses to make friends, yet complains of being lonely. She is her own worst enemy really. I had rather hoped that her moving into the home would have allowed her to be more sociable and given her the daily contact with people that she complained of not getting when she was living at home. But this hasn't happened. At least we now know she is safe and and looked after but she's not at all happy and this still manifests itself through incessant phone use.
I was wondering if anyone else had experience of dealing with high volumes of phone calls from a parent with Alzheimer's especially those who are in a care home, and how you dealt with it.