Hi fellow carers out there, my Dad - Des was formally diagnosed with vascular dementia last Nov, after many years of slow, steady memory problems and personality changes. He was put on aricept (for better or worse ??) and has in the last 2 days been admitted into an NHS care unit as my mum and brother, who live in the house, could no longer cope with his night time wanderlust - locking the doors only made him want to break them down to escape. I have visited him on his first 2 days as he's been settling into this temporary arrangement (we have to find a private home for him) and am slightly shellshocked at seeing him in such a situation - the people looking after him have all been fantastic and the place seems ok but it's not his home and it breaks my heart to see him there . We haven't had a proper meeting yet with all the relevant parties (SS etc.), that's coming up next week but initial discussions seem to suggest it's not practical for Dad to come home. Can anyone shed any light on the burning question of how to decide when it is no longer possible for a loved one to be at home ??