Hi Sandy,We have been to visit a home near by which the CPN arranged but i feel that mum would come out worse than she went in she would have no idea where she was not that she seems to grasp were she is now!but the one constant thing she is aware of is me and the routine we have.I have weighed up the options and have decieded against respite now because she as gone down so much,i am in the lucky postion of only being 49 fit and healthy ok then most of time! anyway i think if the worst came the dr would admit her to the local hospital as i dont the the home would take her.I am waiting to hear from the OT who is looking in to getting a hoist if she can beg the funding for it her words not mineas the main problem is getting mum up from a sitting position once shes standing i can manage. STORM