thanks all for your support it means so much but you dont have to worry any more I AM BEING STUPID ---had big meeting today at hospital consultant says bobs memory has gone down from 50 to 32 over the last year but thats not too bad at all and nothing to be worried about tests he did with nikki - pscologist show he does not get mixed up does not say unappropriate things or get confused etc i said but thats a controlled test its not real life the good thing is nothing was showing on brain scans as nikki said there might be more going on and i was worried - out come was he can not say bob has dementia or ftd it could be stress we could go for a second opinion he said but it would mean a lot of travelling and more tests and for what --I AM SO GLAD there is nothing much wrong with him i must be imaging it for the last 4 years - maybe he did not have to give up his bussiness maybe we did not have to sell our house maybe he did not have to give up his driving liscence --IF IT IS ONLY STRESS bel x